Help! He doesn’t get it…am I alone?

Does anyone struggle to get your husband/ partner to understand everything that you experience/ sacrifice with being pregnant and/ or taking care of your children? I’m a stay at home mom who also works/ finds ways to help with bringing in an income, I’m pregnant, and am the full time carer for our toddler. I’m often juggling meetings, deadlines for work, and the MANY things that go into taking care of a 20 month old. My husband doesn’t get it and often makes comments about how tired he is and doesn’t get a break while being insensitive to everything I’m juggling to prioritize our daughter while saving us money on daycare fees and making income for our home. Me asking for help feels like pulling teeth, and I’m starting to question if my pregnancy hormones are making me feel really alone and isolated in this or if other people also experience it.

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It is the struggle of modern day motherhood. Listen or read the audiobook “mom rage” explains a lot. We are expected to do everything, yet being given zero support. Our lives do a 180 while men’s stay about the same.

I started telling my husband “I’m risking my life to ensure your blood line so shut up and help” the first time he was kinda shocked but he’s a champ now lol

Your feelings are valid and you are definitly not alone girl. I also work from home with twin 3 years old. I got to bed between 11 and 12 most nights and up at 445 and my husband always let's me know how tired he is and comes home to nap usually at least once a week even if I told him I was having a rough day mentally... it can be very hard momma! You are a queen!

It's not a battle of who's doing more. It's possible for you to both be exhausted at the same time. If you are constantly overtaxed, eventually you're going to need help. Think about building regular help into the budget. We all start adding classes and activities for the kids before we really stabilize ourselves. A few babysitter hours every week or two and/or a quarterly deep house cleaning could go a long way for you... If your husband needs to go to the store, cook a few meals, or clean up after himself better give him a system he can use without you having to constantly manage him.

Somewhat related. My husband asked, "how is it so easy for you to wake up in the morning when you barely get any sleep?" I was dumbfounded. Waking up is the hardest thing in the world. But i have to breastfeed so im up mutliple times a night and then early in the morning. Like it has to get done so difficult or not doesnt matter. But he gets full nights of sleep and i still have to struggle to wake him up for work🥲

@Cici omg literally this!!! Things are hard, they’re exhausting but we don’t have a choice but to do it despite that 😫😫 I really struggle to get him to get that. We’d love to sleep or not do something because we are tired but it’s just life at this point 😭

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