Man watching porn

I watch it to too so Doesn’t bother me

i think its very much the principle of it all. if he knew your wishes since the beginning and still continued a relationship with you that means you established that boundary and he shouldn’t have done it if he respected you and valued the relationship in general. personally it would make me feel like they didn’t care anymore ya know.

I’m okay with it, I watch porn and use dildos so I don’t see the difference. A lot of pornhub have amateur porn so you’ll likely see it being videos like that It’s also not possible for men to withhold sexual release like it is for women, I’d rather my partner watching porn when he is horny than badgering by me when I’m not in the mood because women moan about that too so they can’t win! And I’d certainly prefer porn that him going out and shagging around

So you're gonna do all that instead of just leaving? 🥴

My husband knows that at least right now and indefinitely, that's a boundary for me so he doesn't do it. He doesn't like receiving oral much at all so literally the ONLY time I get to do that for him is after I give birth 😅 I asked to make our own videos before having kids but he's pretty awkward, shy and vanilla about sex.

@Francesca this right here, if you established those boundaries and he broke them that’s not okay. If you haven’t set those boundaries yet then I would do it now if that’s what you need to feel secure. It personally doesn’t bother me at all but me and my bf have a different kind of relationship

Girl, I know you’re hurt, but burning his car and maxing his card won’t bring peace—just drama. You just had a baby. You’re exhausted, and this feels personal because it is. But before you torch the whole relationship, ask yourself what you really want. If porn was a clear boundary and he crossed it, that matters. But so does four years, two kids, and a shared life. Is this a dealbreaker, or can you work through it with real talk and maybe help? Hurting him back won’t heal you. You deserve respect—and peace.

I mean would you rather him be at home watching porn or going out to be physical with other women? Then you saying “now you gotta wait 6 more weeks” and wonder why he feels the need to watch porn….you’re being very childish by keying his car, and maxing out his card. Now if he leaves you, you’ll be crying….honestly yall be creating yall own issues and then wanna play victim. He didn’t necessarily cheat, he just simply wanted to please himself instead of being selfish and asking you for sex after you just had a baby, like most men do. I think you need to reevaluate yourself honestly.

@Tiffany girl he better get with the program!!!! Making vids are the best in my opinion 😂 the way me and my baby daddy has multiple locked away in my phone is RIDICULOUS!

@Milan well after 2 kids in 2 years w a C-section I'll pass and my husband doesn't like the idea of having that on his phone/doesn't find it necessary. I'm kind of glad I can say now no one has videos of me 😬

@Tiffany which completely understandable! But I definitely make sure it’s always recorded on MY phone too 🤭 no faces though!

@Alex yes💀💀 I got 3 kids 2 by him and I’m not tryna move into a camper with my grandparents and then go to court over mine and his 2 kids

Some of yall don’t understand like saying “woukd you rather him watch pirn or go out and sneak around on me” like yes I’d rather him watch porn but we have over 100 videos of me and him and just me doing the same damn thing as the chick in the video in his phone so he has no business watching other women when he has that many videos of me he can watch instead of a random chick and not have to go out and cheat

@Milan like I said there is enough videos of me and him and videos of me on his phone for him to not watch porn. But he decided to watch that instead of our/my videos. I didn’t create the issue he wouldn’t have caused an issue if he watched me instead of some random ass chick please herself. He can still please hisself to my videos and not a random because he trips on me when I’m outside and look at a “Edgar” but I ain’t even seeing the mfs dick so why tf woukd I not trip when he is actually looking at another chicks pussy . He seeing more than just get to see. And he has been bugging about sex ever since I had the baby counting the weeks down and this week was the week we was able to do it but he couldn’t wait 3 more days.

Also we have over 1,300 pics/videos of me and us

This is a very personal stance. Some don't mind, others do. If you don't like this and that's your boundary then that's what it is. If he knew this then it is disrespectful to you. I wouldn't bother continuing toxic behaviour just to get back at him, it's a waste of everyone's time even if it does make you feel better in the moment. I know you're hurting. Sometimes people just watch things to get a quick buzz - doesn't make it right btw, I wouldn't like it. Some people justify saying it's only porn but at the end of the day, she is a real woman and he's watching her pleasure herself so to me it feels unfaithful. You have to decide what is acceptable to you and what isn't and if that doesn't align with his way of thinking then there's always going to be an issue and it will cause paranoia and mistrust. Think carefully about it. Have a conversation. Why was he compelled to do this? Lying isn't going to help. Honesty needs to be at the forefront of this.