Lonely in motherhood - please give advice!

Does anyone else feel lonely? I don’t have many friends and I’m a sahm (currently) until I go back to work. I go to baby groups but it’s ground hog day and I’m the main parent even with a partner - I want to enjoy this time but not sure how? Baby is nearly 5 months - hoping things get better once she’s older? How do you ask partner to have the roles be more equal without arguments? Maybe this would make me happier? Does anyone else feel this way? I want to get out of this mindset badly. I have lost friends during this change to motherhood but I want to find ways to be ok without so many friends as I feel I have no choice? I don’t know if this makes sense to anyone but hoping it does.. I always wanted a baby but never knew how hard it would be mentally and physically! I don’t want to take any medication just want to try and do other things. How do I get out of this funk? anyone been where I am and now feel the opposite?
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Hi lovely, I’m so sorry you seem to be having a hard time of it. I’m a single parent so I know the struggles of feeling lonely. However always remember you aren’t alone you have your wonderful baby 🥰 I too have lost many friends in my transition into becoming a mother but I often think to myself they have no idea what it’s like to be a parent and how my world now revolves around my child and making sure she is happy that’s my priority! One day they’ll get. I was to that friend who lost touch with friends when they had a child so i understand it. Look at all the positive things you achieve with your baby day in day out. A piece of advice given to me was that looking after the baby is my job now and to try plan my day out like a day of work. It can seem a little emotionless but it actually really helped me. Lean into family more at this time hopefully they can offer some friendship too. You’ve got this Mumma 💪🏻

I'm sorry you're feeling this way, I think it's very normal and we all feel it to an extent! Depending on if your partner is working long hours or not you can basically say that your job is around the clock, assuming you doing all the night wakes. They get off work and actually have a break, so this isn't technically fair or equivalent. Childcare is hard work. Ask anyone, and a day job will seem so much easier than solo parenting a child. As for the loneliness, have you tried filling each week day with a free Baby sensory activity? Not sure what it's like in your area but there's usually children centres in every town/county. Reach out to mums and organise meet ups, coffees, home visits, picnics, etc. It's honestly the best thing I've done and I'm always chatting to them on WhatsApp!

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