Sex

You haven’t had sex in over a year? That does seem to be an issue. But it really depends on if there are other intimate actions happening? Like, do yall cuddle, talk about your feelings/emotions, give light touches and little smiles, hold hands, etc? I mean, I didn’t have sex for 6mo after baby was born, but mostly because I had a c-section and took a long time to recover. That and breastfeeding 24/7 made me notttt want to be touched in that way. Now, I cosleep still, so we don’t have sex very often, but usually at least a few times a month. I am pregnant now and the first trimester has got me trying to survive, so that’s the exception hahaha

@Kassia more like 2 as it’s been before she was born. Yes we do all those things. I also had a c section and it took a long time to recover properly 8 months before I stopped to be in pain.

I think when it’s been so long, it can be harder to get back into it again. Yous can fall into a rut and the lack of intimacy becomes the new normal. Have you spoken to your partner about it? Maybe yous need a date night to reconnect

@Deb definitely in a rut. I haven’t spoken to him really. Haven’t had a date night since LO was 3 months and I was so ill then.

Girl I hear you, we hadn’t done it in so long (since the very late stages of pregnancy, trying to get labour going 🤣) and before that it was at conception! Finally happend the other day, as daughter was at a sleepover at my Mum’s and we went out for a meal for my husband’s birthday. I’ve always had a fairly low sex drive anyway and really need to right ‘conditins’ I.e really relaxed, no stress etc, so having a baby really scupered that 🤣I think then as it went on so long with no sex, it became more daunting, especially after having an episiotomy but it was all fine in the end

Well, it seems like your husband would be very enthusiastic if you were to offer sex at this point, especially since he is still showing physical affection in other ways! Honestly, it is hard to have sex for the first time in a while. I was a bit insecure and unsure of how to indicate I was ready to try. Also, you don’t really think about sex that much if you’re not having it. Maybe try to initiate when you have a bit of time or shower together or something? Rip off the bandaid! 😂

We go between not at all to all the time. But your situation is so normal for people with young children. Finding the motivation after a full day is just hard!

I haven’t had sex for over a year with my husband! So don’t worry. I was going through ivf if was horrible, had a horrible pregnancy and now have a 5 month old that sleeps next to me and I am not having sex till he’s out the room lol. It probably won’t go back to the way it used to be but you will have sex at some point as many times as you can when you can. Don’t worry!

It really depends, sometimes it's every other day, sometimes it could be weeks. X