Wits end

Do not come for me because I am in tears writing this, I am at my wits end and my heart is breaking. My LB is 3 in May and I just cannot deal with him. He’s horrible. Spiteful. Hurtful. Naughty. Nasty. Genuinely vile. He is that kid that you don’t want your kids playing with. I don’t know where I have gone wrong with him. I have tried everything and I mean everything. I have never laid a finger on him but I have to walk away because some days I honestly could. I hand on my heart feel like if he was a dog I’d take him back. I have spoken to the nursery and the HV and he does not display these behaviours there and they have no concerns. I am so sick of him
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Hey hun I don't no everything that your going through but take a deep breath.... he's your child and it's okay to feel how your feeling because no one knows how truly mentally your exhausted all I can say is don't give up on him keep trying and keep pushing this phase that he's going through won't last forever and I hope it really gets better for you. Express your feelings to the ppl that's in your support system and see if they have any ideas to help deal with your little one 😉 💖💖💖

@💐lati 💐 just messaged xx

Everything is just a phase 🩷 if he doesn’t display these behaviours at nursery he’s testing boundaries with you. I have this with my daughter who is also 3 in May. Whenever she gets overwhelmed/struggles with her anger she will hit/scream. I have also been at the end with it and have had to try to put my emotions aside with it as I was struggling with tolerance. I’ve started deflecting every situation and changing what she’s doing which has stopped a lot of the anger outbursts. If she’s being horrible to her sister (taking toys etc) I remove her from the situation for 1 minute. If she does it again when she comes back I increase the time. It didn’t work to start with but it’s now started to click. I’ve discovered it’s trial and error with different situations. I didn’t want to even try to start with because it was just met with her hitting me and nothing was working to stop it. But like with you, she’s nice as anything to anyone else. You haven’t gone wrong. All small children test -

Boundaries especially with their mums!! Because they know it’s a relationship they don’t have to work for and that you love them unconditionally. All I know is I feel I’ve been feeling the same with my daughter and it’s so hard 😢but I promise it will get better!! They just can’t regulate emotions so are learning and you’re the best to learn around because of the bond. So he will test EVERYTHING possible. Xxx

Whilst my boy the same age is generally a lovely boy, his behaviour in the past month or so has been a lot worse. I think it's an age thing and, as people have said, he's testing boundaries particularly as I'm due another baby any day now. Doesn't make it any easier in the moment but I am hoping this too shall pass. Just keep being consistent with consequences and hopefully things will improve.

I’m not sure if it’s a stage, my boy who was born the 30th of April has been awful! - nursery constantly complaining about him, behaviour chart etc. However last week or so he’s been so lovely, calmed right down. So I’m telling myself it was a stage. 😬

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