Partners helping around house

Am currently 35weeks preg and really struggling now with my hips and breathlessness. I am not working anymore and my partner works . He sees me struggling and in pain but doesn’t help at all around the house . He walks our dog before he goes to work. Occasionally he will do the dishes. He chooses to work 6 days a week. When I try to bring up the conversation even just saying offering when am struggling is nice . He goes off on one saying he works all day and I should appreciate what he does. He make everything a mess never cleans up after himself so makes the housework more . It be so much easier if he cleaned up after himself etc. I’m just really shocked at his attitude and am now really worried as I’m due for a c section and I don’t think he’s going to help around the house at all.

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Sounds like you have another child!! 🤬 If he can’t even accept having a conversation about it thats a red flag. Are you close to his family? It might also be different once you have the surgery because my partner hated seeing me in that much pain and everything i went through - it might change him… can’t guarantee that with a man child though.. You’ve got this ❤️

My partner worked 6 days a week and still did a lot while I was pregnant . Most times I was home he would go to work and come make dinner as well. Pregnancy is hard and men should know this !!

I had the same issue with my kids dad, we were in a horrible place where i wasnt getting any help around the house and it was us and his other 2 kids i was cleaning up after, then i had my first via emergency c section and i was embarrassed having company over becuase i couldnt clean the house, with my second we were in a bigger house and more to clean and still no help unless we had house inspections, it took me leaving him for other reasons for him to wake up to how he had been treating me, since we have seperated and taken a step back he has had the chance to realise everything i was doing for him and has been doing everything he can to show me he can change and be better, we are in a better place now working towards living together again, i have been sick bedridden for the last 2 weeks and he has been at my side helping me with the kids and with dinners and chores showing his support Maybe a bit of distance will help him see how he needs to change to help you as well

The working excuses is boring now housework/parenting should be 50/50 if you work or not. My youngest son’s dad has 3 children under 4 including our son, works 6 days a week, does housework, comes for my son 2 days a week for him to stay over. He never gets a break but he actually cares and he’s doing what’s right.

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