TTC wedding November

Hi all, It’s been a long rocky journey for us with a loss in November 23, another ectopic loss in April 24 and no luck TTC since, I am now on Metformin for PCOS in my left ovary (right ovary seems fine 🙏🏻) still no luck and have been on Metformin since Feb so still early days. We are getting married in November on our 10 year anniversary- I tried my actual dress on last night and it fits (even if a little big) it’s an A line dress with a corset style body. We were going to resume TTC this month (after 4/5 months off to avoid the wedding date and too soon before it) we tried loosely last month and weren’t successful, now I’ve tried my dress on and I love it I have suggested we skip this month as I might be too big for it, Is this really shallow of me? I have like a gut feeling we should just take every chance we get so I’m really torn, Like can a dress be adjusted to a possible 28/30 week bump (if we were lucky) ?

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I think it’s really personal choice. I was in a similar position. My partner and I were trying to conceive our 2nd for 10 months then booked our wedding for 6 months time. We fell pregnant on the following cycle and I’d already bought my dress. It was a fishtail and definitely not bump friendly. For me I felt a baby was a stronger want at the time, so I actually got a new dress but then lost that baby just after I’d bought it post 12 weeks. I then fell pregnant a month after my mc and we found out 3 days before the wedding. It was actually really beautiful being pregnant for the wedding. I loved it, but it’s really just personal choice. It’s not shallow at all. Especially when you’re celebrating a 10 year anniversary! As for the dress it will probably depend on the specific design. If it has a corset tie back that can be adjusted to be larger. It’s also boobs, hips, arms etc that may be impacted too. You can always try get a seamstress to look over and advise 😊

@Amy thanks Amy ❤️ A baby is so important to us and I feel we should take every chance we get! It isn’t a corset back currently but I don’t see why it couldn’t be changed to one if needed and it comes in at the waist and then flows out currently x

@Amy also this is incredibly rude of me!! I am so sorry for your loss ❤️

Oh bless you. Not rude at all lovely 💕 Yeah I’m sure there’s lots of solutions for the dress, plus if you do become pregnant I think those worries would also just disappear 😊. But also don’t feel any guilt about feeling the want to enjoy the wedding. The TTC journey can have us wrapped in bubble wrap, so definitely important to prioritise our wants and needs too. I hope your rainbow appears soon lovely!! X