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I am one and done because it has taken a toll on me physically and mentally. I knew motherhood would be hard but I really struggled with it in the first year and had post partum depression and was really a shadow of my former self. My husband and I both work so our son is in nursery 3 days a week which costs a lot of money and I couldn’t imagine paying that again for a second child especially when we want to move to a bigger house which will mean a higher mortgage etc. Also, I just want my freedom again as our son gets older and I can’t wait for the day to stop pushing the buggy around! All in all, I don’t want to raise another human being and be responsible for them.
I’m one and done! My daughter is my entire world and I still (4 years later) don’t feel an urge to have another, I want to see all her firsts and give her my undivided attention. I also had PPD and now live abroad with no familial support and I would also want my baby to be born in the UK not here. Also the life style we want to provide our daughter with limits us to just her. I want her going to the best schools etc! Plus we always say we can’t improve on perfection 😂
Partly due to fertility reasons and a difficult NICU experience. Trying for a second for us would have the potential to be really heartbreaking and I wouldn't want the child we have to see me as I was during fertility struggles. I don't want to do IVF again. We'd both be open to adoption if we wanted to expand but honestly I don't think we will! I really believe that even without all that we would have reached the same conclusion. We are really happy as a 3, obviously there are challenging moments! But the older she gets, the easier it is and the more fun we have all together. We're both really happy to give her all of our love and attention, and also financially we'll be able to do more and provide more for her. My parents both had short fuses and I would absolutely hate to end up like them and take my frustrations out on my children. I'd rather be my best possible self for one child than spread myself too thin and be a worse mum to multiple children.
We were on the fence anyway, but it turns out I probably can’t have anymore so that was the decision made for us x
Wanted 2, but after having a MC and anxiety during pregnancy, hating the newborn stage and really struggling to get my identity back, I am fully 1 and done. Love my daughter but I feel it would be detrimental on my mental health, and therefore on my children’s upbringing, to have any more children.
Cost of living too expensive where I live and I’m single and don’t plan on getting married anyways. I’m content with my daughter I don’t need more. I feel like less kids is better because you can afford more and not stress as much with finances compared with multiple kids
Also had so much anxiety and stress during pregnancy and recovery and nerve damage. I was hospitalized for prenatal depression and don’t really want to go through feeling depressed again when pregnant
We were up In the air on having another but after giving birth two weeks ago and almost dying we are now one and done. So thankfully our baby was healthy. But my health is important as well and being present for our current child took priority.
@Abby I agree. Healthy mom= healthy baby💗
My daughter is only 1.5 y/o… and pre-kids, I would’ve said I wanted anywhere from 1 to maybe 3 or 4. I expected birth to suck (it did) and I expected to have morning sickness, but I didn’t not expect the bedridden fatigue and 24/7 relentless nausea for nearly my entire pregnancy… and the “stuck” and hopeless mental state that came with it. It sounds dramatic, but I’m a little traumatized. I did enjoy the newborn phase… but I’ve also lost so much of me. I know it’s a small price to pay, but the weight gain… the permanent hormone changes I’m still paying the price for (permanent cortisol increase, newly acquired eczema, insomnia, etc.)… the overstimulation and demands of motherhood… the strain that it puts on my marriage (with no family nearby). I have zero baby fever or inclination to do it again or have another one. I also had such terrible physical anxiety during pregnancy (high blood pressure without preeclampsia + insomnia + intense mental anguish)… I never want to endure that again
Yep. I wasn’t altogether sold on having any. I’m very happy with my one daughter. I had GD that wasn’t easily controlled so pregnancy wasn’t fun. By having just one I’ve been able to stay at home with her (she’s nearly 2). She can have all mine and husbands time, attention, and love, and financially we can do more for her and us as a family as she grows up. I feel complete as a family of 3 and I don’t want anything more than what I currently have.