Controlling?

Is it controlling for my boyfriend to always comment when I wear makeup he says he doesn’t get why I wear it and it’ll cause spots?
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I mean… having an opinion on it here and there, sure fine. But every time? Not cool. Is he saying like you’re beautiful without it? Or just like picking on you about it?

@Alexis yeah it’s every time I thought he’s just got an opinion but now I realise I don’t wear it anymore coz of it and reminds me of my ex would say not to wear nail varnish so didn’t wear it, I mean my boyfriend isn’t saying not to but questions why

My ex has severe narcissistic personality disorder. He used to tell me that. I mean…do YOU feel like it’s him being controlling and insecure?

I’d tell him to STFU and either stay w me the way I am or leave me for someone who doesn’t wear makeup every day coz I’m the type who does. My man only ever compliments me he doesn’t make useless remarks like that. No man tells me what I can and can’t do. He can have an opinion sure, that he prefers me no makeup, which he does. But don’t tell me that I can’t. Tell him you’re a female who likes wearing makeup and stop questioning you about it. Spots? You won’t get spots if you remove your makeup every night and double cleanse. My man doesn’t even comment on the tight/revealing clothes that I wear.

It will "cause spots"? Makeup is pretty universal, and we aren't all running around looking like cheetahs. I'm guessing he's never worn makeup, so this is not from personal experience? Does he ever offer an actual reason for this or just because his great aunt Sunny used to wear makeup and had freckles and sun spots as she got older? Or did he just see an episode of Dr Oz once? 🙄 Talking about all makeup is also a sweeping generalization... The sun is what causes skin damage. Wear a makeup with sunscreen, and you'll be preventing spots. I don't even wear makeup, but I'd push back on this. His opinion is both unwelcome and uninformed. Is he typically this self-righteous about his opinions about random stuff? That would be a big ick for me...

Yes it is absolutely controlling.

Thanks guys so I put on makeup and wore an outfit to go out with my friend it felt good x

My ex used to say it if I didn’t wear make up and he used to ask me why I wore false eyelashes erm because I want to bye!

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