Fourth time pregnant

Just needed to talk really. I’m around 6 weeks pregnant, and it was a huge shock. Iv got a teenager who lives with his Dad. And I also share a 2 year old and nearly 1 year old with my future husband. I really didn’t want another baby, and have an appointment booked next month, but I fear it will be to late as if baby is formed I definitely am not going through with it. My partner is absolutely supportive of whatever I choose. My two year old goes to nursary next year in September, so a bit of the load off. But just after any advice if anyone in the same boat ect. (This baby will be absolutely loved if it kept it) it’s all just wrong timing that’s all, plus getting married this September.
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I wasn’t in the same boat but I had a 10 year old who’s dad passed a year before and I found out I got pregnant after breaking off a toxic relationship and getting involved with a FWB situations I got pregnant. I decided after my firsts dad passed I wasn’t interested in more and my FWB was strongly against any. Well life is crazy and I found out I was pregnant… he told me he would support me no matter wat and now we r just over a year later and we have a beautiful baby girl who we both couldn’t see life without.

So sorry for you’re loss. Life already crazy here too, hence why I’m stuck on what to do. I part want this baby, but know deep down I wouldn’t cope. Luckily my partner is home for 2 at latest from work, most days 11 or 12. But he’s been off for a week due to pneumonia, then back to work for a couple of days, and off again this week bless him. So already at lost of stress going on

I was/am in a somewhat similar position. I have a 12-year-old from a previous relationship and a 5 year old and a 15 month old with my current husband, and I'm also 34 weeks pregnant with my 4th. I did not want another baby, I was done and fine with having my 3 boys. We used birth control, and it failed, and found out at 7 months pp I was pregnant again. My husband was supportive of whatever i decided to do. I ended up sending in an intake form for an appointment at the women's clinic, however if it took to long I wasn't going to go through with it. Long story short they only got back to me when I was about 11 weeks along, I couldn't go through with it. I'm scared and nervous, as my youngest will be 2 under 2, and I'm used to having bigger age gaps. Not to mention, 4 kids. It will be tough but I think so worth it. I'm the youngest of 6 and I love having all my siblings

My two boys are excellent with their little sister. LG isn’t always sleeping through at night, LM can temper tantrum over the smallest things, and I wanted to get back into work again after little lady. So that’s also what’s doing it for me, plus the extreme load x

I usually believe everything happens for a reason and has a purpose. Sometimes idk what until way later lol but was in a situation with father of my first child that was maybe one yr at the time and dad and I weren’t together and not on best terms and just overall not in a good place myself. Everyone told me to not have this second baby as it was very much a surprise even on BC and using morning after pill and because of my situation. 10 years later I couldn’t imagine not having her and while it was very very hard those first few years everything worked out for the best. Still was able to work, go to school/graduate, found local resources to help with daycare and food and so much more. I also was pregnant last year with my now fiancé and we ended up having a miscarriage unfortunately, even at 6 weeks they found a heartbeat and that gave us some hope but ultimately we passed baby some weeks later. Now pregnant with our rainbow baby and feel so fortunate even through all the hardship.

I have a 20yo, an 18yo, a 5yo, a 3yo and a surprise 1yo.. my surprise baby is the heart melter, the sweetest little guy ever. I hope you become comfortable with the idea of adding #4, you just never know who they'll be until they're in your arms. 3 littles are a lot but it's only a short while before it gets easier and seeing them all bond when they're close together is amazing 🫂

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