Fourth time pregnant
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So sorry for you’re loss. Life already crazy here too, hence why I’m stuck on what to do. I part want this baby, but know deep down I wouldn’t cope. Luckily my partner is home for 2 at latest from work, most days 11 or 12. But he’s been off for a week due to pneumonia, then back to work for a couple of days, and off again this week bless him. So already at lost of stress going on
I was/am in a somewhat similar position. I have a 12-year-old from a previous relationship and a 5 year old and a 15 month old with my current husband, and I'm also 34 weeks pregnant with my 4th. I did not want another baby, I was done and fine with having my 3 boys. We used birth control, and it failed, and found out at 7 months pp I was pregnant again. My husband was supportive of whatever i decided to do. I ended up sending in an intake form for an appointment at the women's clinic, however if it took to long I wasn't going to go through with it. Long story short they only got back to me when I was about 11 weeks along, I couldn't go through with it. I'm scared and nervous, as my youngest will be 2 under 2, and I'm used to having bigger age gaps. Not to mention, 4 kids. It will be tough but I think so worth it. I'm the youngest of 6 and I love having all my siblings
My two boys are excellent with their little sister. LG isn’t always sleeping through at night, LM can temper tantrum over the smallest things, and I wanted to get back into work again after little lady. So that’s also what’s doing it for me, plus the extreme load x
I usually believe everything happens for a reason and has a purpose. Sometimes idk what until way later lol but was in a situation with father of my first child that was maybe one yr at the time and dad and I weren’t together and not on best terms and just overall not in a good place myself. Everyone told me to not have this second baby as it was very much a surprise even on BC and using morning after pill and because of my situation. 10 years later I couldn’t imagine not having her and while it was very very hard those first few years everything worked out for the best. Still was able to work, go to school/graduate, found local resources to help with daycare and food and so much more. I also was pregnant last year with my now fiancé and we ended up having a miscarriage unfortunately, even at 6 weeks they found a heartbeat and that gave us some hope but ultimately we passed baby some weeks later. Now pregnant with our rainbow baby and feel so fortunate even through all the hardship.
I have a 20yo, an 18yo, a 5yo, a 3yo and a surprise 1yo.. my surprise baby is the heart melter, the sweetest little guy ever. I hope you become comfortable with the idea of adding #4, you just never know who they'll be until they're in your arms. 3 littles are a lot but it's only a short while before it gets easier and seeing them all bond when they're close together is amazing 🫂
I wasn’t in the same boat but I had a 10 year old who’s dad passed a year before and I found out I got pregnant after breaking off a toxic relationship and getting involved with a FWB situations I got pregnant. I decided after my firsts dad passed I wasn’t interested in more and my FWB was strongly against any. Well life is crazy and I found out I was pregnant… he told me he would support me no matter wat and now we r just over a year later and we have a beautiful baby girl who we both couldn’t see life without.