Baby hates his Dad

quality time. that’s the only thing that can really fix that issue. he doesn’t see him so he doesn’t know who he is

I wouldn’t say your baby hates your husband that’s such a strong word, you’re just your baby’s safe space because you’re the one there 24/7 it is a natural thing then it comes to dads working so much, I would just try and push your husband to play with them whilst you’re in the room even whilst you’re doing cleaning, so they can see you but being able to form that bond which feels like on their own terms, it’s so hard and your husband must be feeling it too, only way to fix it is that dad puts in the extra work when he is home, but I’d start it off with you being in the room so you’re not just gone in your baby’s eyes, he’s too young to understand that you’re going to come back they don’t develop that until after 6 months when he doesn’t see you he just thinks you’re completely gone, it’s a hard stage, but even have dad on his days off feed him whilst you’re in their view, the older they get the better understanding of you coming back develops xx

I know it’s hard but it’s just a phase. My son was like that with his dad for awhile. He’s a year and a half old now and is growing to be more of a daddy’s boy every day!

Lots of play & him involved / leading bedtime routine

U just need to let him take care of baby more so he used to that more

He's likely just having separation anxiety about you; it's not that he doesn't want dad, it's that he WANTS you ❤️ it's a phase, it will pass. Try snuggling the 3 of you as much as possible 🫂

Like Sarah said, he probably just wants you. My girl was that way until 5-6 months old and now she LOVES her daddy and smiles every single time she sees him even if she just glances up at him. I've been told up until like 6 months, babies don't understand they're not a part of you so he might just be confused why you're not there. It will take time like everyone else said but don't stress, it will get better! (Also my hubby only sees her for an hour or two on the weekdays because of work so it's definitely possible even with having to work a lot!)

Thanks everyone for words of encouragement! I really appreciate it. Starting yesterday I gave them time to bond during bed time routine, let my husband to do the bed time routine and feed him while i’m still in the room with them. We’ll see if that will help. Thank you so much for the advice! 🫶🏻🩷

At 4mths they still think they're part of you, so being away from you is REALLY tough. Around 6 mths they start to realize you and them are not one. Your baby doesn't HATE his dad. He just knows you and wants you. But you need to create time for just the two of them. My wife leaves at 6a and gets home around 6p and we had the same issue. But I then made my wife take over bedtime routine: bathing, drying, lotion, getting dressed, brushing hair, brushing teeth, and a little story. That has now been their thing since little one was about 6 or 7mths and she's almost 2. It gets better!