Do you regret leaving your baby daddy?
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As for your baby being affected… this is a relationship between two adults. In no way should your child’s relationship with their father be contingent upon your relationship with him. My parents fought everyday and after their divorce they were both happier. In that case their marriage to either other had more negative effects on me than the divorce did. And both of them met other people and fell in love and my family grew so much bigger. You never know.
i don't regret leaving him.. doesn't mean i don't have feelings about it because i am trauma bonded to him. he's a horrible person and just keeps being horrible so i shouldn't be with him. i'm on day 8 of no contact and realllyyyyy trying to hold out because he's not good for me and he won't be good for my son
I caught my husband doing that in the beginning of the relationship but he loved me enough to change for me. If this man continuously would do that than that alone should make you feel more confident about leaving him. If he won't change for you than he doesn't deserve you, you will find a man out there that will love you enough to treat you the way you deserve to be treated
@Kat I thought our values aligned but now I just don’t know. I think he’s just really selfish. He did stop for almost 5 months but he did it again and he says he cares and it’s not an addiction. But after I left I found he did it again.
@Cat I’m so sorry I know how you’re feeling: I hope it gets better for you. I always go back and forth on if my so is horrible or just does horrible things sometimes but I guess they go hand in hand
@PJ I was thinking about that but I feel like damaged goods now. 2 kids. Body ruined. Late 20’s and going to live back with my mom not finished with school. I don’t know how I’d present that to anyone. But I do want to find love, I always have.
I haven’t left my bd but I would if he was a stagnant person. There are some things that are absolute no’s for me and others I can live with. Never growing and bettering yourself, not having a clear vision for your future, and cheating are 3 reasons I’d leave. If his values do not align with your own it’s not going to work out for you. There are plenty of men whose values will align with yours though and unfortunately sometimes you figure that out far too late. Proper boundaries should be respected and I think that asking someone to do something that ultimately betters themselves is okay. We’re here to support our SO and push them through growth. If this is an absolute for you, than you are making the right choice. Sometimes it might be hard for someone to immediately respect your boundaries due to addiction or habit. If they’re showing that they’re trying it’s okay to stay too.