Men on dating apps don’t want to publicly date you, but they tell invite you around to theirs for “cooked food”. That’s a red flag that they only want sex right ?
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I had a friend who would date guys like that. This was when the only apps were like OkCupid and Match…so, a while ago. And she was actually excited if a dude said he was going to make a pork tenderloin or grill a steak. I remember being like, You want to go on a date and he wants you to come over, so you’re not going to go on a date? That’s the beginning of the b.s.
lol, meet my partner on POF. He cooked and did the deed on the 1st date. It’s not necessarily a red flag. It depends on the individual. We chatted for a couple of months before meeting. However, some want to bang within minutes of texting. There are plenty of d*cks on the dating app. However, there are some gems. Just go with your gut. Please be safe though. It’s a jungle out there.
You could set some boundaries. If you do go round to his, tell a few people and share your location. Only use password on your phone as Face ID and fingerprint is easily accessible. If you don’t want to meet at his first, clearly state that you’re uncomfortable meeting in private and if he wants to see you then you want to meet in a public setting. If a guy really likes you, he definitely will do it. Plus if he literally has said he doesn’t want to publicly date you then I’d be put off by it because some men do only want one thing. If you’re interested in dating say that. Clearly state what you want going forward and what you’re looking for(I.e you want a relationship). Thing is as well if you both are going to be in a relationship in the future then more than likely you’re going to date in public. I wouldn’t be able to see the difference between not doing that on first meet up compared to after in a relationship but maybe that’s just me
I would not meet a man off Tinder or a dating app for the first time at his home. Shit not until i talked to him for a while, dated in public even if it’s a lowkey spot.. that’s dangerous
Men don’t think about safety because generally they don’t have to. I’m a big fan of over communicating and setting clear boundaries so if I liked a guy, I would explain that I need the first couple meetings to be in public. I’d also express that I’m looking for more than just sex, and if he wants something casual, that’s fine, but I’m not the person for him. I’ve had men want to cook for me because they wanna show off their skill set as partner material… in fact, my husband still does this 😆