Baby started nursery

My LO had her settle in session today at nursery. I stayed for most of it but towards the end, they took her out to play. It was for around 20 minutes, and she cried hysterically for all of it. When they eventually handed her back to me, she was absolutely exhausted. Since we returned home, she’s been really clingy and has cried when her grandparents have come to visit her ( which she never does) she doesn’t want me to leave her. I have this horrible feeling that I shouldn’t continue with nursery, as it’s affecting her negatively. But everyone keeps telling me to ride the wave. She is going for 5 hours once a week. So I don’t know if it’s even worth the hassle? I’m willing to change my working pattern and work less, so she doesn’t need to go. I’m working 3 days currently. Not sure what to do! Would love your advice. She’s a very clingy baby and has not spent any time away from me, so I think that’s why it’s affected her negatively. I feel rubbish.

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She will be fine. That was her first time there. She will get used to it. As you say, she hasn’t spent time away from you, so it will take some getting used to. On the other hand, I’m not sure if 5 hours a week is really worth it. I always thought the recommended amount was 2 days as that helps the child settle in more. If you’re happy for her not to go and that’s an option for you, then maybe don’t bother until she can go for longer.

She will be fine all kids go through this. 5hrs a week though is hardly worth it though and it’s not probably regular enough for her to settle. Can you not do 1-2 full days? My LO went at 13mths for 5 days a week all day and it took a good 3 mths for him not to cry on drop off. Broke my heart. But he LOVES it now best decision ever

I think if you’re able to slow down the settling in process that could help. Not sure why nursery didn’t give her back to you if you were there and they let her cry hysterically for 20 minutes rather than letting you calm her down she’s likely going to see nursery as a barrier to you. Also if she’s only going for 5 hours a week i can imagine it’s gonna take a really long time to settle in. My son will be doing 4 half days and I’m worried about him settling!

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