Looking for friends

Hey so this is really awkward for me🄲 but I’m just going to jump right in…I wanted to make a post in hopes that someone relates. So, I’m 28 and I don’t really have friends. Okay scratch that, I have a lot of associates— people I know, people who know me, but very much a ā€œpopular lonerā€ if you will. Idk. But I don’t have ā€œfriendsā€ if that makes sense. I don’t have a single girl friend that I can call, text, FaceTime & just talk to. I used to have friends and we all just drifted apart. & My one friend who I was very close with in college lives in a different state now, is a mom of 2, and we rarely talk or text these days. Since becoming a mom, my world literally revolves around my child. It’s almost as if it’s my new and (only) personality 😳. Trust me it’s a blessing and I love motherhood, but let’s just be real… it ain’t always sunshines and rainbows!šŸ™„ especially with a 3 year old—ohhh don’t get me started!ā˜šŸ½lol. Anyways, I’m really introverted but can show my extroverted side once I get comfortable (I’m very goofy, love to laugh, love to have a good time) but I think social anxiety got the best of me over the years really bad. I have struggled with depression, anxiety and bipolar disorder. My toxic trait is pushing people away because of what’s going on in my head & I think I do that because I want to ā€œprotectā€ people in a way, but it makes me seem mean? Or maybe stand offish? Or as if I don’t care which isn’t true…Idk. The bottom line is I am really self aware, and I take full on accountability for my actions and how I may have come off in the past with previous friendships at least, but deep down inside I just want friends. 😭😫And now that I’m a mom, mom friends especially so that we can relate. Hang out. Text. Talk on the phone sometimes. Vent. Have play dates. Talk shit about the kids and share cute pictures afteršŸ˜‚ā€¦sip wine. Hang out WITHOUT the kids. Ya know?šŸ«¶šŸ½ Sorry for the long post, but I kinda feel like a bit courageous for that… like I lifted a little weight off of my shouldersšŸ˜…šŸ™ŒšŸ½
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If you was in England I would say message me!

Darlin, I could have written this myself. But I'm in the UK. Either way, feel free to message me if you want a chat xx

Hey… I myself am looking for friends or a good friend..I have several associates and a best friend who moved out of the country. It’s been awhile since I tried this so I hope it goes well that is for the both of us lol šŸ˜† My name is Brenda but most people call me Bree lol šŸ˜† it’s so nice meeting you!!!

Hi, am Tina from Kenya.. looking for a long distance friend who we can chat, video call...and all that

Im in GA, but so feel all of this

I'm in UK too but damn I could of wrote this too only difference also is I'm 38

It's so hard finding ourselves after becoming moms, we are of course moms but that's not only who we are! I live near the West Coast so we wouldn't be able to meet up but I'm down to text/vent anytime!

I’m in MA but can 100% relate to this!! Feel free to message me any time! Always like to have someone to chat with and vent

I’m in MD and feel all of this!! I feel like all the friends I had in college or shortly after have pulled away because we were in different seasons of life and now I feel like I’m alone. If I’m not working or taking the kids to some sport or event it’s more ā€œmom thingā€. Feel free to message me!!

Awww could have written this myself!! ! But I'm near London. :( x

@Emillie-May where abouts are you? I’m in Hertfordshire

@Brenda well hey Bree! It’s nice to meet you too and I hope it goes well for you too! šŸ˜ŠšŸ«¶šŸ½

@Danica you are so right… we are more than just moms. I appreciate you girl!

I'm in TX and can relate šŸ’Æ. Reading this post I swear you were talking about mešŸ˜‚

@Ashley definitely feel you on the ā€œfeeling aloneā€ part.🄹 nothing worse than when you’re overwhelmed and literally have no one to talk to… it’s lonely for sure

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@Kenosha lol I’m so glad I’m not alone here! I’ve always wanted to share this but in the back of my mind felt like if I did, I’d look so miserable or be judged 😢

@Sade I'm Hertfordshire too! X

Hey Imeena! Message me!

@Imeena no judgment here. My one "friend" was so happy when she found out she was due to have her son 6 months after mine was born. Talked about playdates and all. Only for her to constantly pay pay dates with others,no invite even though we all used to hangout together. To top it off she'll text me and when I reply I'm ghosted.

Hey can definitely relate especially since I’ve been diagnosed with anxiety and bi polar disorder as well. I’m in Philadelphia PA so maybe we can chat and become friends ā˜ŗļø

Hi I’m in Uk, your post is exact same what I’m going through, sorry to jump on this post, but it’s really hard without friends.

@Kenosha why are people like this! I font understand disappearing friends when you have a baby ! Thats when you need friends the most right?

@Shyma same for me!

@Sade right! But luckily I still have a support system from my family, where there are tons of kids.

@Zaina Philly isn’t too bad! I love quick trips away from Jersey, lol I’ll message youšŸ¤—

@Kenosha wow I’m so sorry to hear that girl😩. It’s really frustrating to be ghosted out of no where or for weird energy to exist period. But I will say being a mom is hard enough and when you don’t have a circle it puts so much pressure on you as well. That’s why I downloaded the app, to do just this— talk and get to know other women/ moms who just get it. And no judgement whatsoever šŸ«¶šŸ½

@Shyma no need to apologize! Come on in, join the chat! lol I think it’s been cool to meet people who are all the way across the globe but can relate to what I’m saying. We’re still connecting šŸ„°šŸ«¶šŸ½

@Kenosha same with me, familial support when you don’t have friendships are so important and I’m so grateful for them

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