Toddler hates me.

She doesn't hate you. Unfortunately, kids are their worst self with their moms because they are most comfortable with you. It's like when a kid acts terrible at home, but their teacher will say, "Little Jimmy is our best behaved student." As crazy as it sounds try to take it as a compliment and also do time outs. Doesn't matter where you are put her in a time out when she throws a tantrum. I've put mine in the corner at the grocery store. 1 minute for year of age. So if she is 2 put her in timeout for 2 minutes. Do it as many times as necessary and ignore her. You don't have to walk away, just don't engage with her at all. If she gets up, restart the timer. - mom of 5

@Lacey whenever she’s with her dad she’s the happiest kid. When she’s with me she’s crying and screaming. I’m still in tears because I just can’t anymore. I told my husband to take me home I was done for the day. She left to get something to eat with our toddler and his older daughter. I’m still in tears. I can’t stop crying.

Take a breath. I would say if she’s acting like this, trying a serious face no emotion might help? Then she will be trying to figure out what your reaction will be. She’s testing the waters, to see how you react at all times. My toddler does it, they are curious.

If she sees that it doesn’t affect you maybe that could help stop the behaviors

I totally feel you mama! Just crying over here in Costa Rica. I’m here alone with my 2.5 year old who keeps behaving terribly every single time we step out anymore. Tantrums, sitting at any table at restaurants except ours!!! (Ps she usually always behaves well with her dad in the same fashion. But yes, it’s true they say children are most comfortable around their mothers so they let it alllll out. Sending you a big hug.

Forgot to mention I’m on vacation in another country while about 3 months pregnant as well, and dealing with my little terror 🥲 We got this!!

Being a sahm is hard. Think about it in terms of attachment. Your daughter has a lot of big emotions she doesn’t know how to regulate yet and she feels safest with you to express them. Really what she needs is to know it’s okay to have those emotions and for someone (you) to help her regulate them. Unfortunately time outs might not always help as kids that young aren’t really able ton”think about what they’ve done”. If a time out is needed because you need a break to think or to keep someone safe, sure. But really taking your presence from her could make her feel less safe. Just try to give hugs, let her know her feelings are okay, and maintain boundaries so that she knows what are appropriate ways to express emotions. Hang in there!

This may sound weird but my son would throw tantrums or even hit me which I was shocked what I started doing was throwing my self on the floor like he would n he’d instantly stop n look at me like what r u doing if it wasn’t a tantrum n it was just simple miss behavior Id ask him do u want to go sit in ur room for a little n relax (sometime yes sometimes no ) I’ve also created a time out chair which I gave the option if u stop now u wont go on time out chair if ur gonna hit and not be nice u will sit on time out he didn’t think id sit him on time out (since im mommy mommy babies him) I stood my ground and sat him right in that hair n everytime he got up I reset him n after I explain why he can do that n we give hugs and kiss he’ll be 3 oct 9th and that method has worked wonders so far n he loves the hugs and kisses after n tells me sorry mommy

I’m with you! My son doesn’t cry or scream but he definitely doesn’t listen to me. He doesn’t eat for me either. It’s frustrating as fuck. I constantly I have to hear “he doesn’t do this when you’re not here/around” Makes me feel like shit but he’s with me 24/7. It’s like Charlie Brown and the adults. I totally get it. Trust me. I have thought about leaving because I’m just fed up

She feels most comfortable around you. My son won’t go down for a nap with me but easily does for his dad. It’s so frustrating. I can’t image having to deal with the tantrums along though. You’re doing great!