Do you think spanking is abuse?

It’s literally assault by definition

Depends but typically seen as abuse but older people don't see it as such

Growing up a cop told me it's ok as long as there's no bruise :/ so that's what I live by now

The child’s brain can’t tell the difference between assault and corporal punishment. https://www.gse.harvard.edu/ideas/usable-knowledge/21/04/effect-spanking-brain

Oh boy here we go again. Jfc. It absolutely is, there is so much research to prove it. Just because someone says it’s okay, the plethora of scientific research says otherwise. Idc what state you live in and what the laws are, you’re just trying to justify your lazy, cruel ways of disciplining. If you feel the need to hit a CHILD, get help. Not directed at anyone in particular but this is a recurring conversation that always gets heated. Facts are facts. If you hit your kid, while you may not leave a mark physically, you are leaving a permanent mark mentally and not one of respect, one of fear and distrust.

If you hit an adult it’s assault so how is a child any different? Hitting kids is way worse and I don’t know how it’s seen as ok

Yes. It's ineffective and does more harm than good. There are myriad studies and meta-analysis to support this. Parenting should be focused on healthy development, not just correcting behaviour.

Nope, I don't it's a form of discipline. You can choose to do it or not. That's your right as a parent. And idc anymore how I get judged.

No🙄

Can't believe this is even a question. Would never teach my children that violence is okay. And that hitting someone is ok when they have been "naughty or bad" maybe it's different in different parts of the world, but living in the UK I would assume this is not okay.

@Moira are you joking or serious?

@Moira well there is new info available that spanking leads to severe long term harm, see the other comments about the meta analyses. No need to live by what one person told you years ago…

@Becky dead serious, I caused trouble in middle school and the cop legit told my step mom that...

For those who hit their children... why do you do it? What other discipline methods have you tried before hitting? At what age do you start hitting your children? How do you know you hit enough for them to learn a lesson?

I will say for the record, im just saying what I was told, I havent even fully decided on how I'm going to discipline my child (she's only 9months)

@Moira please do not include any harm to your child in your discipline plan 😓

@Claire maybe a slap on the wrist or hand or something but I don't think i could bring myself to full on spank anyways

@Moira so you think that as long as you don’t bruise your child then it’s ok to hit them? Wow

It’s wild to me that people consider hitting their kids before 1. they’re even born 2. while they’re babies. Like do you fantasize about hitting children? Also, if you were abused as a kid, how did that make you feel? For me personally, I still remember how awful it made me feel and it did not really correct my behavior. I resented my mom, I did not respect her or want to be better. It made me feel like I was a bad kid when really I was just a kid that was doing normal kid stuff, and what I really needed was more patience and better guidance. It also made me feel distrustful of my mom, that if I confided in her I might get in trouble and therefore get hurt. That is not the relationship I want with my daughter.

Nope

@Moira I would encourage you to not slap your child either. No physical harm of any kind

@Lauryn I didn't say it was ok, im literally stating what a cop told me as I was growing up As I also said, my child is only 9m old and I haven't come to the point of needing to discipline her, and when I do I don't think I'd be able to bring myself to spank anyways... a slap on the wrist/hand, yea, but anything more? Nah, prolly not I am a victim of actual abuse, so trust me, I don't take hitting lightly

@Lauryn yes, because then it’s abuse

@Moira I agree with you, a pop on the hand is not abuse. I see a lot of comments with triggering buzz words making out a slap on the wrist is more than what it is

@Kelly right, but by definition as long is to correct behavior and causes no bodily injury it's not abuse

@Moira exactly

@Moira @Kelly Are you OK with physical punishment in school? It's allowed in some countries and in some states in the US.

@Bela no, I’m not ok with it but that’s a different topic. The op asked PARENTS if they spank, not a stranger

@Kelly of course, I was just curious if you were OK with corporal punishment in general or if only ok when you do it.

@Kelly it’s abuse anyway even if you don’t cause a bruise 🤦🏼‍♀️ it takes a lot for me to bruise but other people bruise really easily so that isn’t a good way of judging it.

@Lauryn and you’re very much entitled to that notion in your home🤷🏾‍♀️

@Bela I’m sticking to what the op asked as i said that’s a whole other topic

If I go up to an adult and hit them, it is a crime. Why do we not give children the same respect?

Simple answer yes. If you have to hit your child because you cannot handle your own frustration at a child trying to learn whats right from what’s wrong then you shouldn’t be a parent. Children need guidance and abusing them isn’t guidance. Talking and redirecting unwanted behavior is not hard. Consistency is key. Do better to those partners to spank because that is abuse. You shouldn’t never lay a finger on a person you created.

@Haley if I go up to an adult and spank them they'll be shocked but may even like it lol

@Moira you don't think children are shocked when their parent that is supposed to love and protect them chooses to hurt them on purpose?

@Bela I didn't say that... she said it was a crime to hit an adult... but I just come up and spank your ass, you'd be shocked and prolly think im weird af... if some person weird af they might like the spank on the ass... all I said was that spanking an adult isn't a crime XD

@Moira that is not what you said. Also, spanking an adult without their consent is assault or at the bare minimum harassment

@Haley this would suggest that it’s random so I’d ask why would you randomly hit an adult or a child?

@Kelly to a child it is random. If they can understand what they are doing is wrong then they can understand discipline of others forms and don’t need to be hit. If not, then to that child you are just hitting them randomly. This makes you a poor parent who can’t control themselves or their child

@Lauryn so spanking IS a form of discipline that people choose and not abuse. It doesn’t make you a poor at all just because you or others don’t agree with it. There may be something you may do as a parent and I don’t agree with it but I wouldn’t call you a poor parent because people have different styles of parenting. Calling me a poor parent for doing something you don’t like or agree with is a form of bullying so are you now a poor parent too?

That's why you'd make it not random, you'd explain what the thing that is wrong is, and why they are getting hit When I was younger I pushed my brother off the couch, he hit the coffee table and cracked his head open.. my mom said that you doing push and whipped me with the belt several times across my ass and I had to stay in my room without supper that night while he went to the hospital and got several staples in his head Lesson be told, I didn't ever push him again, I was 6-7 and he was 2-3

@Kelly if someone does something you don’t like and you hit them, it is a crime

@Moira spanking a random adult is 100% a crime? What are you talking about?? Have you never heard of sexual assault?? I would not just think you are weird. I would call the cop.

@Moira urmmm😬😬😬….

@Haley I didn’t say it wasn’t

@Moira sorry but I think that's what you call child abuse.

This argument gets so old. It's no one business how a parent decides to discipline their child. You all need to learn that. If ain't your child/ children don't worry about it. Worry about your own

@Carol💗💙 so more severe physical abuse is cool with you and we should turn a blind eye because it’s how that parent decides to discipline? Lol okay

A tap on the butt is not severe punishment. Beating a child till have bruises and whelps is. I will do as I please with my children because at the end of the day. They are my children. Do as you please with yours. Discipline, however, you want, and I will do the same