How to be satisfied sexually?

I would stop giving bj’s see how he likes it. What a selfish man who just takes and never receives.

@Kayleigh He knows he’s selfish, he used to be interested in me in the beginning of our relationship, he even went down on me a couple of times years ago. Now it’s all about him. I might have to stop the bj’s because I don’t feel good about myself when I’m not even looked at let alone touched. I have no one else to talk to about this so thanks for taking time to comment

Nah he doesn’t deserve your affection if he doesn’t want to please you

I’d stop giving him anything. See how he likes it. Selfish af!

I agree… he sounds very selfish and you should teach him a lesson. A woman’s needs always should be top priority and once he realizes that you mean business he will definitely take care of you more often and please you the way you should be pleased no questions asked definitely stop the bjs he needs to eat the groceries honey lol real talk!

i agree with the other comments, stop giving him anything! i’d tell him he if he can’t show genuine interest and reciprocate your energy he’s not getting anything

Have you tried dominating. Dress a bit sexy and literally tell him what you want him to do to you. Almost teachery... it should spark something?

@Sam that’s what I think I’ll do now, I’m so sexually frustrated, like I’m stuck in a sexless marriage even though we have “sex” which is more enjoyment for him. I hope this doesn’t resort him to be addicted to porn because I’m stopping the bjs. He gives me so much anxiety honestly :(

@Brenda he doesn’t get it, he has a selfish mentality. I’ve had so many conversations about it and yet he doesn’t change. He has “tried” a couple of times to actually please me, but he’s so rushy about it that it’s not enjoyable, I want slow and sensual start but he’s so rushy, I tell him to slow down but he doesn’t listen like he knows what he’s doing. He doesn’t like it when I tell him what to do, he likes to dominate so in his mind he has to be in control. I don’t think we’re sexually compatible anymore, once when we started dating we were, now years later it’s the opposite

@Sophie he absolutely hates that, he never wants me to tell him what to do, he MUST be in control, that’s what gets him going. I’ve tried many things to spice it up. I feel so unfulfilled I’m my sex life. I haven’t had any sexual history with anyone else, and I’m stuck in a marriage without where I can’t flourish.

ok, may I make a different suggestion then.. how about buying yourself a toy and buying one for him too so you can explore them together. You could get him something that you don't use on him as such (rings) and get yourself something that he would have to use on you. He would have total control but you still get to feel something more exciting. I had a partner who didn't like going down on me (or anyone) for a while and, when I asked about it more it was all to do with the texture... He was a vegetarian 🤣 which I find funny but I guess it does kind of make sense. I just personally think saying you're not going to give BJs might just result in no sex at all and I gather that isn't what you're aiming for. If he's not open to trying something different but you still want to be with him a good toy is a great investment anyway. I know it's not the same doing it on your own but, you deserve to have some satisfaction.

You don’t have to accept this if you don’t want to. If he’s your partner, then what should be important to him is having sexual connection with you and making sure that you feel satisfied as well. He seems sexually selfish to me. Like a lot of men.

@Sophie hi Sophie, lol that’s too funny about him being a vegetarian, he should be a vagetarian it’s healthier 😂 he’ll get vitamin C while you get the D lol So about sex toys, he doesn’t like them at all, I got a vibrator before and he said he doesn’t want it when he already has a dick. I got him sex toys before too, he’s usually so disinterested after trying it once. I think me doing things solo is the only way to be satisfied. Not sure if this is the way it is now permanently.

@Tara I know! Sexual connection is all I want! 😩 sometimes it not even about orgasm it’s about connecting physically in an equally enjoyable way.