Baby blessings…

In my opinion, the answer should be a firm no. Let her say whatever she wants and throw as many tantrums as she needs. It shouldn’t influence or change your decision in anyway. Your feelings are completely valid. You feel like she’s overstepping, pushing your boundaries, and you no longer belong to this church. Ultimately this is should only be a decision between you and your husband. I wouldn’t let anyone take my newborn child anywhere without me for any reason, even if it was my own mother. Plus newborns are incredibly immune compromised.

My grandma is very catholic. She's kind of offended & baffled that me & my hubby aren't religious & we're not going to enforce any kind of religion on our kids. It's *your* child & you have every right to hold boundaries like this. If you & your husband don't feel comfortable doing it, don't. Its worth it to be the villain if it means your child gets to decide for themselves when they get older (imo).

I am Mormon (LDS) and we have “baby blessings”. It’s REALLY just for the parents, like what is said in the blessing prayer has absolutely no bearing on the child’s life in my opinion. That being said- in this case the parents don’t find it necessary!! YOU guys are in charge and are the religious/spiritual guides for your children. If that includes a different religion from the grandparents, cool. If that includes no religion at all, cool!! Grandma needs to learn that she’s not calling the shots anymore!!! Ps- we are the only church members of our family so we’ve had to deal with our fair share of people wanting to take our baby elsewhere for a baptism or blessing and it’s just so weird. Like I would never ask to take my grandchild to be baptized in the Mormon church if her parents weren’t Mormon🤦🏻‍♀️

Getting a baby baptized is kind of like buying pacifiers before baby is born. You don’t know if it’ll work, but does it really hurt to have them just in case?

For us personally, we wouldn’t be doing that. We are religious but wouldn’t be doing anything we don’t believe in. And does she mean “take the baby” as in she would take the baby herself? That’s another absolute no for me too. But you and your husband need to do what you both want not what she wants.

@Natalie it’s more of the case that we both don’t go or believe in this church or really any church at the moment. As a couple, we agreed to do some exploring churches and letting our child decide when she’s older to choose where she will go. I feel like my mom is trying to use this a push to get her into her church as I already told her that she can’t force my child to go to church if she doesn’t want to like she did me growing up.

@Tina yes she wants to take the baby to get a blessing by herself if we don’t agree and she wants to take her to church alone since I don’t go anymore.

Same here! My mom wants me to take her to a church I haven’t attended in over 10yrs. I told her my beliefs are no longer the same & to not insist. I asked her to confirm to my beliefs & she laughed… so I said, Exactly how I feel towards your desire. She finally dropped the topic.