Feeling worthless

Sometimes I just feel so worthless because I don’t contribute to our family “financially.” I do all that I can as far as our home. Our home is never dirty , there are dishes never in the sink , I slack on our laundry sometimes but always make sure our daughter and my husband’s clothes are clean, I cook dinner probably 5x a week depending if we go out somewhere when my husband is off. And of course I make sure our daughter is well taken care of. But I don’t feel like it’s enough. My husband has never told me this. I do know that my in laws look at some kind of way because I don’t work. She’s always saying her “poor” son how he has all these bills to pay. In her marriage she never got to stay home with her kids so I feel like I’m judged for it.

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Girlllllllll please go look in the mirror and mush your face because I can tell you right neowwwwwwwwww that you are way better than what you think of yourself. Sending you huge hugs and the warmest of vibes!!!! Message me anytime you want if you ever need reassurance!!!

@Ashley lol you’re too sweet thank you! 😭

Youre more than welcome!!! I completely understand how you feel. Honestly question how are you about taking a therapy journey??? Or a mental health journey???

I have the opposite problem, I have the only income for our household and my husband is a stay at home dad. I look at him caring for our house, kids, running all the errands, cooking, laundry, etc, and I think that I'm the one not doing enough. Bottom line, comparing 2 totally different roles is like comparing apples to oranges. You each contribute what is needed for the home to function. There is no shame in that. And don't let your jealous MIL get under your skin.

@Nilo wow what a different perspective. Thank you!

OMG, PLEASE STOP! What you’re doing IS work! Society unfortunately values labor ONLY if it’s coupled with an income bc most ppl (men) don’t value domestic labor as labor. Being a sahm is one of the hardest jobs bc it’s never-ending and rarely appreciated. With a 9-5, you’re at least allowed to clock out—not the case being a sahm. Stop being hard on yourself! You’re doing more than enough! If you want to make your own money, there’s no problem with that either—just make sure you’re not in a situation where you can possibly get screwed over. And fuck your in-laws lol. I can’t stand women who coddle their sons. Her “poor” son is doing exactly what he’s supposed to do! Mindsets like hers are exactly why there are a lack of real masculine men left. Men need pressure put on them to be MEN! If she didn’t get a chance to do it, oh well! She could’ve changed that, but she didn’t. That’s not your problem!

@Samira Lol thank you! I agree they do love to coddle their son! She’s always talking about his brother’s wife too how she “spends all his money.” I’m like I guarantee she talks about me too.

Women like her are so tired 🙄 as if a woman isn’t allow to spend her man’s money while benefiting off her energy and mental/emotional/physical labor

@Samira giiirrrl yesss! Everything you are saying is so on point!!! Lbvs

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