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If yoy haven't already also look at healthy start by NHS - I've just got mine and it helps with grocery shopping (moo milk and fruit/veg). I'd also look at any benefits/help you can get towards childcare and like Siobhan said apply for help.throigg the council and get child maintenance from your ex - he may be living the high life but he still has a child he's responsible for financially even if he's checked out of the rest of it.
Hey, I was in a similar situation a while back, I made him leave as things got so bad when she was 8 months old and it was hard! But honestly 18 months later it was the best decision I ever made, you can do this! I know it’s easier said than done but try not to focus on what he’s doing, and what you can’t do (I did exactly the same and found it easier to block all social media etc). I remember how restricting and lonely it felt and I really feel for you but with time it’ll get better, perhaps optimise the free childcare hours even if it’s just for a few hours to yourself
@Siobhan he’s an illegal immigrant ( I didn’t know till was too late I was lied to) there’s no way to get it off him without him being deported
@Sandie I tried to look at that at my council it seems you need a referral ? For the healthy start
@Nessa thanks for sharing, it’s so hard because he is living a child free life and mine is just stuck in limbo and struggle in every way possible I struggle to see how it’ll get better I’m also so hurt how he can just cheat on me and leave me and forget about his kid? It’s so confusing she doesn’t deserve it
I just applied online for it 😅
@Sandie thank you I’ll do it today and see what happens got nothing to lose I guess! X
I’d be getting him deported then if he’s not going to give you anything 🙃. Definitely ring up the council though I was in a similar situation and they were really helpful offered me temporary accommodation straight away as technically homeless. You could get the person you are living with to write a letter saying that they are evicting you.
I know it’s hard to see it now but it will. It’s not easy trying to heal your own heart, whilst being completely exhausted and raising a little human, but I can see just from this thread you’re already making such positive steps! She does deserve better, and so do you, unfortunately he’s shown who he really is. Try and look at the positive, he’s shown you one year on instead of 5, you wouldn’t want someone like that as a role model for her
I believe you can get 15 hours free childcare, working or not working so look into this on your local authority website. Do you have anyone close you can talk to? I’d also recommend going to see your gp/ health visitor to talk about what you are feeling. You’ve got this, keep going x
From September you can get 30 hours free childcare from 9 months old I think so hang in there! You can also claim up to 85% childcare of uc so don’t lose hope. It is tough for single mums but there is help and support out there 💞
You can get free childcare now from 9 months old so you can return to a workplace, have a look on the gov website to see if you qualify or if you are on UC send them a message via the app and they will help you
Have you applied to the council? They will help with your housing needs? Is he giving you CMS?