How do you all navigate difficult mother daughter relationships??
My mom and me have been in and out for a couple years. Things have been good for the past 3 years as I had my children I have learned to only allow so much and to be more assertive with her. (Spent my whole life making sure she was ok and now i am a mom and have much more important things to worry about).
One thing that particularly bothers me is her weight loss. Shes been a diet person since the day I was born. Ive only ever heard her bad mouth her body and diet diet diet. Shes now on whatever variation of ozempic and dieting whatever. I honestly dont care do you. But shes constantly berating me with her lbs lost.
Like its soo triggering and annoying! I sent photos of me and my kids I got done professionally and had told her I was so excited about and she responded. Nice and OMG I did it!! 🎉🎉🎉 and shared how many lbs she lost (like honestly this isnt new) shes had weight loss surgery before. Its always been an issue. I am just soooo tired of hearing about it but is it rude if I say I dont care about your weight loss lol. Ugh sorry just sooo annoyed! Im here with 2 babies under 3, post partum, breastfeeding and she never shows up for us and expects me to pet her ego 🙄🙄🤦♀️
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The book "adult children of emotionally immature adults" really helped me a lot. Highly recommend!
@Cally I'll definitely look into it thank you (:
I think it's definitely fair to set that boundary. I would also suggest asking her not to talk about that in front of your kids. It sinks in when they constantly hear adults in their life obsessed with weight
@Sachiko i 100% agree! She sees them maybe 4 times a year but I am very cautious of that! My husband also has that issue so its like a double trigger lool I get weight is stressful and everyone wants to look and feel good but obsessing over the scale and your food intake is just wild 🤦♀️
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That's very tough my mom was completely absent in my life until I was 15 and I allow her to have a relationship with my daughter because my relationship isn't not my daughter's relationship with her however I for myself keep her at a distance to save myself further heartbreak and betrayal so i dont have that great of a relationship with my mom because of our history i cant let go of the abandonment 💔 😢