I think I hate my baby

You are definitley not a terrible Mum. Your own babies cries are bound to sound worse to you compared to your husband and everyone else it’s part of our DNA. Him saying let her cry it out is not helpful. He wouldn’t like it if you took him up on that and you left for 1hr or less for a walk and some you time and he had to deal with her. You need time for yourself for the basic needs in life that you have listed and your partner needs to buck up his part in brining up your daughter. Have you spoken to someone though about how you’re feeling? The HV or GP? Don’t go through it alone x

I know it’s super hard and knowing this might not make it any easier but it’s completely biological normal for baby to do this for at least the first 3 months - the fourth trimester! Baby thinks they a part of you and don’t want to be separate. Practically, do you baby wear? That way baby can stay close by you and be calm and you can make yourself food etc. Sleep wise are you co-sleeping? If baby won’t even go down on the bed, chest co-sleeping could be an option for you? I know a lot of people aren’t comfortable with it but if you reduce the risks by doing it as safely as possible, it’s more likely to be safer than if you’re running on no sleep? With washing and showering, that may just be a case of having to be as quick as possible and baby crying for a tiny while if she won’t settle with anyone else. The fact you’re asking for advice/help and you’re scared of hurting your daughter shows you love her and want to protect her, you’re not a terrible mum at all, just one that is..

..struggling a bit without much support. Sending love xx

Honestly I don’t think till you have a baby that needs constant attention from you people don’t get it. I didn’t till I had this baby and admittedly I have had a few breakdowns saying I don’t want her anymore that I can’t do it. We’ve been to the GP so many times because to me there’s a reason for them to be so uncomfortable even if it’s colic, reflux or CMPA. There’s usually a reason or unfortunately some babies do just cry and need mum a lot. What I can suggest which has definitely helped is putting baby in a safe place and taking yourself into another room. Even if it’s for something to eat or even a shower. It’s hard I know but you do need to take care of yourself too and when you don’t have the support. As long as baby is in a safe place it will be fine. All I can say is this isn’t forever. Feel free to message me 💕

Poor you, you’re doing so well reaching out. My little one is 13 weeks and I’ve got a migraine this morning due to lack of sleep. This morning I sat on the sofa crying while feeding my baby, with a cold cup of coffee 😩 I wish there were ways we could connect in real life, it’s so lonely

I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way! This is my second baby and his temperament is so different to my little girls, I’ve cried so many times. I’ve literally had to learn everything again because what worked for her doesn’t for him. My husband also said just leave him to cry but the sound goes through me, we must hear it different to dads! I had migraines all last week too, I think it must of been lack of sleep 😴 just wanted you to know you’re not alone, I’m only a message away if you want to chat ❤️