Colic baby and losing my patience

Do you breastfeed or bottle feed? This sounds like my little guy and he has been diagnosed with CMPA.

If you breastfeed you can try cutting out dairy completely to see if it settles her… it takes at least a few days tho. If you use formula feed you can get hypoallergenic milks which are pricey but can be prescribed by the GP. What are her poos like? Does she have eczema or dry skin anywhere? Does she regurgitate frequently? Sorry mama it’s hard either way. Have you tried colief/infacol?

Like rana it sounds like my little girl and she has colic and cmpa snd using the colief drops and her alfmino milk she's a completely different baby, your frustration is completely valid, lack of sleep, none stop crying honestly breaks you right down x

Do you have any help or support that can give you some time to rest ? Praying for both of you 🥲 There are lots of resources out there to help reduce the colic as it’s very painful for both if you. But first momma you gotta get some rest too

@RanaI am breastfeeding and I suspected CMPA so i’ve cut out dairy and soy from my diet for the last 2 weeks. She had a rash before which cleared up after I stopped consuming dairy and soy. Her poos are yellow and look pretty normal, before they used to be mucusy. She also has reflux and is taking omeprazole for this. Infacol made her reflux worse. I tried gripe water which didn’t help. I’m now tryinf dentinox. Is colief any good?

@Marilyn The only support I have is my husband but he works. We also have 2 other kids so when he’s back from work he’s usually busy with my toddler. My baby is so clingy to me, she won’t go to anyone else. She only recently started going to my husband. I have to hold her all day and night and I think it all became too much for me.

Don’t beat yourself up. You’re doing an amazing job. Babies cry! Especially babies with colic. She will grow out of it soon. Might help or not but my friend, who’s baby had colic, used to take her baby for a walk at night and put a podcast on just for some quiet x

I’m sorry to sound so patronising but have you cut out all dairy completely? Like not just milk yogurt etc but all milk powders, butter, everything that could contain trace proteins. I only half-arsed the no dairy until my consultant said no point cutting some dairy out if you don’t cut out every trace🫠🫠. All her symptoms do sound like CMPA. It can take a little while for the proteins to leave your milk so she might not improve straight away but if her poos are getting better and her skin is improving? I know breastfeeding is something we value so much as mums but it’s perfectly okay to switch to formula if it’s too much for you. A calm and happy mama is the most important thing your baby needs, breastmilk is less important than your mental health at the end of the day.

@Rana Yeah I’ve cut out all dairy completely, so all milk powders etc. I heard it can take a couple weeks to settle and her skin has only improved over the last few days. I am not ready to give up breastfeeding yet. I struggled but in other ways with my second baby too but I found by 3 months it really got easier so I would like to keep going. I think she struggles mostly with gas so I’ve just started trying dentinox hoping it will help.

Firstly I am sorry you going through this it is a very uneasy situation. It can happened to everyone to loose patience in this case don’t be too arsh to yourself. But get some support and if you feel you loose your patient ask to your husband to take over or isolate for few minutes in a room for breathe a bit. Does your little seems uncomfortable when lay down? Could be silent reflux…

You’ve smashed it by eliminating dairy entirely. Consultant said to me it takes 4-6 weeks for the reaction to completely go away in baby, so stick with it. I wasn’t ready to give up breastfeeding either and if I’m honest, I’ve been doing the elimination properly for about 4 weeks now and he’s only just starting to be happy and settled. We’ve been doing gripe water when he’s really gassy as the colic drops didn’t seem to help as much somehow? Also been doing the following: thoroughly burping him after every feed as in making sure I get a big big burp and trying to do it for at least 5 mins gas massages frequently, bicycle legs during every nappy change and the “ I L U” massage after every feed to try to help him get the gas through his system back rubs focusing on the right hand side of his back during cuddle time for same reason as above It isn’t easy. Some days the crying would make me imagine putting him down in his crib and going for a loong walk. Lol. It does get easier!!

Also, vegan cheese and vegan chocolate got me through this no dairy thing 🤣 I would go downstairs and snack on vegan cheese out the bag at 4am like a little rat to keep me sane 🤣🤣🤣

Oh and one more piece of unsolicited advice- if you don’t already have a baby sling, that helps with the touched out/holding 24 7 dilemma. I have a freerider one and it’s helped so much

@Rana Aww thank you and I really appreciate all your tips. Yes going dairy free isn’t easy 😩 and I noticed my baby doesn’t react well to Soy either. I never realised that soy is in basically everything, even chocolate! I babywear my baby pretty much all day, but I need a better sling so I will look into the freerider.

Good luck with everything!! 🤍🤍🤍 soy is in flipping everything as if it wasn’t hard enough eliminating dairy, I feel for you 😭

Please don’t feel terrible or guilty. It’s normal to do so but you’re only human and this sounds incredibly stressful and exhausting. No wonder it gets too much. Try to be compassionate with yourself and if you have any opportunities to step away even for 10 minutes try to give yourself that time x

Girl, I’m with you here. I have shouted at my 1 month old and felt horrible!!! It’s fine, it’s so hard to hear your baby cry and not know how to soothe them. You feel stuck and trapped in your own home. My baby girl is like this, not to mention my birth was nothing short of horrific. It’s been so hard!! And to think I still have 2 months left of this 😭