Am I insane?

So this is my first baby and before she was born, I didn’t even intend to co sleep/bed share at all. I had only heard how bad it was and didn’t find safe sleep 7 and other research until after she was born and refused to sleep in her bassinet. Now here we are 4.5 months later….
She contact naps every single nap
I go to bed with her when she goes to bed for the night (around 8:30pm) and lay with her until she wakes up in the morning if I wake up first. She has literally never napped or slept by herself aside from maybe 2 car rides.
And I don’t mind one bit! I love it and I love her and I have no intent in changing things until she wants to. Sure, sometimes I think it’d be nice to have some me time while she naps, but I don’t want to miss out on any of these snuggles.
Her and I sleep on a floor matress in her room, and I think around 1 year we will go back to the bedroom with my partner and get a king size super low bed when that time comes. She will probably be napping on her own by that point lol but if not that’s fine with me 🤷🏼‍♀️ I don’t believe in “spoiling” her or that she will be co dependent forever, when she’s ready she’s ready and I’m not rushing it.

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exactly! She nurses to sleep and wakes up and eats then falls right back asleep whenever she wants through the night. It just works great for both of us and feels so natural!

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Exactly the same here. ♥️ It was never the intention but it’s what ended up working best for us. Fast forward and I did some research on the origins of “sleep training” techniques (Dr. Luther Emmett Holt's The Care and Feeding of Children, published in 1894) and got to say: so glad we never caved to that pressure.

Co-sleeping with my boy is the most natural. And I feel like I’m doing my best by him.

Proud of you! Proud of our babes!

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I was super against cosleeping until I had my son! He's 7 weeks old and has only slept in his bassinet a handful of times. We have a bassinet attachment that hooks onto our bed, so if he rolls over then he rolls into his bassinet and not onto the floor. We also had no choice though because he has horrible reflux and cannot sleep on his back without being watched, so I hold him on his side and we sleep belly to belly
It's helped my PPD/PPA so much and he sleeps a lot better

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Co sleeping is very common in other cultures.
I think it’s insane to expect for a baby to want to sleep on their own when all they’ve known it’s their moms. Cuddle, nap, cosleep with your baby for as long as you can and desire. Time really does fly.

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So precious! I still snuggle my 16 month 💗 it’s special and won’t be like this for ever 🥲

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Girl I have a 4 year old, and a 21 month old, and I have always coslept with both, we have a king bed, also on the floor, well it’s on top of the box springs but that’s it lol. My second baby boy, is super mega attached to me, but I slowly started to once he’s asleep, leave them in the bed and have some alone time in the living room, like watching tv or taking a shower. I set the camera up. But I have always coslept with both! I just got my oldest boy to learn how to fall asleep on his own, alone in the room with the door cracked without me lol.

Also if you have a crib that turns into a toddler bed I suggest also attaching that right next to your bed.. my kind bed feels like an Alaskan bed at this point haha, the front of the crib comes off.. and so it’s leveled perfectly with our bed. But even then dad still chooses to sleep on the couch, and the days he wants to sleep in bed with us, I put my toddler or the baby in the crib side , then the other child next to him but in the bed ofc

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And then me and then dad, if not it’s just me in the middle and one child on my left and the other to my right haha!

I know soon enough my oldest will want to sleep on his own, but so far he still wants his mama ❤️🥹 and I’m okay with that because I know the day will come.. where he will want his own bed and his own room. 🥹 but right now I’m soaking in all the cuddles.. so if your kiddo ends up similar to mine, trust me you have a few years of more cuddles, he’s almost 5 and we still do sleeping! Unless you decide to change that ofcourse 🤍 but trust if you keep going.. you’ll just wait until they are ready like me haha 😭🥹😩❤️❤️❤️ also best of luck mama you got this! Always trust your instincts ❤️❤️

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Same, mine is 18 months and still won't nap or sleep by himself 😬

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Nope. Co sleeping is perfectly natural and normal. Do what you think and feel is best for you and your baby!

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We still sleep together and shes nearly 2.5. We have really just got her a little bed but its attached to my bed so she has her “own bed” effectively but if she wants to come in my bed she still can. About to give birth to her little sister who can then sleep on the other side 🤣🩷

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her crib does turn into a toddler bed! That’d probably be a good idea once we go to mine and my fiancé’s bedroom and so I can justify having bought the dang thing 😂

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hahaha yeah that was the only time I have ever used it for lol other than that I never used it , it was just decor in the nursery hahaha

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so Atleast that’s what I’ve been using it for! I didn’t buy it my mom did so Atleast I’m trying to get the moneys worth hahahaha

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My daughter is almost 11 months and is exactly the same. Sleeps in my bed every night, contact naps for every nap. I think to myself, I’ve managed 11 months doing everything I need to do, why the hell would I stop now?! She will move into her own space when she wants too and when she asks for it. Until then.. I’m taking every single cuddle and bed sharing night I can xx

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Girl I was so against co-sleeping or bed sharing. And then literally day one home from the hospital that kid was sleeping in bed with me because tried to put him in his bassinet he screamed bloody murder. He's a month old now and has slept in bed with me every single day

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