Moving interstate!

Has anyone moved interstate, where that state happens to be across the country for everyone you know, all your family, your friends, you partners friends and family? How was it? How did you cope with switching doctors, specialists, schools, jobs, etc? Did your family and friends visit? Do you visit them? How did you cope without your support system? My partner (not husband) wants to move across the country to the sister base of the company he works for. He is having issues at work and is being bullied by his direct supervisor, so I understand why he wants this. Also, our living situation sucks and my family is overbearing. I'm so nervous it makes me feel sick, but I want and need to get away from my family, this area, etc I've never lived outside my house, let alone my area, and I desperately want to. It's just that my partner has prioritised work over me and our son and over my job (currently a SAHM, but won't be when we move), and I can't mentally handle being a working mum with the weight of everything. Our toddler is in therapy for developmental delays, is in swimming, will likely be diagnosed with autism, I see a regular chiropractor, neurologist, and a cardiologist here, too. My parents step up where they shouldn't have had to and help me get my son to his appointments when my partner wouldn't. He has gotten better lately, but I'm terrified that if we move, he may start prioritising work again and I'll be alone and struggling to get my son to all his appointments and keep a job. Needing help and advice, thank you.

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So I have technically done this twice, the first time was moving from the west coast to Eastern Canada. Which was an adventure in and of itself. Then we moved from Canada to South Texas, right by the border. Moving in general is a pain, and there will always be growing pains associated with uprooting and going somewhere new where you know literally nobody. And it can also be very freeing to get away and start to create a new life, traditions and figuring out your relationship separate from family that can be really good for a relationship, because you have to rely on each other. As for finding all the resources, a lot of it is research, trial and error, and asking people for references. Do you have some kind of community you can connect with where you're going? For example, a church, or something similar? That, for me, has been helpful as a way to get started with finding friends and getting recommendations. Going to places like the library and extra curricular for my kids have also helped me connect

All in all, I know it's a lot to process, but it can be possible. As for people visiting, we have had family come visit. So far it's only really been our parents. Depending on where you will be living you would have to see where the closest airport is, and if it's one that is more of a central hub. We currently aren't in that kind of place, but there is an airport, but since it's a smaller one I've found flights tend to cost more. BUT that's when you are able to find which airlines are cheaper and figure out travel around all that. If you have other questions you can message me. :)

Also, if your partner is going to uproot you and your son, then he absolutely needs to make sure there is a work-life balance, and to make sure that your son (and you as well) can have all the support you need. Again, dm me and we can chat some more

Thank you, this has been helpful ☺️

Moved from longisland to colorado... best decision i made. Moved here alone, blind. Never been. 3 yrs later met my partner and have a beautiful daughter and dog :) my mom and i have never been closer (distance made the heart grow fonder) lol and my friends would come to visit. If they wanted to they would. I knew no one nothing. Created a life for myself by myself. People getting to know me for me not from the people they met i went to highschool with 10+ years ago and their opinions. I am well was comfortably independent. It took time not too long but i am very personable, i love to connect id go out by myself all the time. Found churches, jobs, friends, connections i could never imagine ever having back east. The valley i live in is HOURS from a major hub. Lets just say aspen is the most convenient and id never make my friends or family willingly fly there even tho smaller hubs are more convenient. Salt lake and denver with a 4-5 hour drive is where im at,and although its far(1)

From anyone in my life, i wouldnt change a thing. My partner is from the furthest point coastal west, i am from the furthest point coastal east, and we met mid west... our families despite it all and the travel finances etc, find ways and will find a way to come together. When it comes to coping without a support system.. i realized quite some time ago at the end of the day its just me, i have me. No, i dont trullly have what i used to back home.. my born and raised girls but its what i had to do to make a better life for myself. For me longisland was a bubble and those who never left dont undertand the life they could have. You may have never lived outside of your home, your are, but if you just pull the trigger and do it, dont look back, for me at least again it was the best decision i ever made. We both work full time, have a three month old daughter, its just us out here.. our families have made the effort to come( over time, lots of time). Establish your life that you want

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