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How can I overcome this,me and my husband had issues he call cops for me,though was not arrested the cops advice me for divorce my his refuse that he is not going to sign anything or book for me flight to take me to my home,now my big problem is this since then I’ve no peace when he is not around I’m at peace though I keep on getting scared,I even forget I’ve carts sometimes when they walk around I found myself in panic like my husband is around,when he comes back I just find myself crying sweating panicking and shaking so bad& I’m so afraid, Today I told her I’m not okey I need to see marriage counseling or therapy he refuse that he has to book for me from his church,women I’m loosing it to make the matter worse I found myself pregnant I’m dying slowly help

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Get rid of that baby, and pack your bag and leave him. You know what to do, but you afraid to do!! Don't think twice, he sounds scary, if u give birth to that baby, he will never ever let you be happy with or without him, he will make your life hell. Go watch abusive partners videos, and you will get me. My ex was abusive and I have child with him. I'm not with him anymore, and d he still makes me cry every time he is getting his child from me, I feel like my life is over forever. He will hurt anyone if I want to date 💔💔💔

This is a dangerous situation to be in. Where are u from? Do u have family or friends who could help u pay a ticket? Does he not give u money to cook or take care of yourself at all? Because if he does u may need to start saving parts of that to pay your own way. Dependency on an abusive man gives him power to keep u captive so u need to start your own plan to get tf outta there. I can’t tell u whether to keep your baby but u have to think long and hard of the ties u will then have to this man till your child is 18. Not only that but is he capable of abusing your child as well? It is clearly unsafe for you there and you seem to be doubting your strength and ability to get yourself out but men will only have as much control over you as you give them. Don’t challenge him but figure out a plan secretly to get out because this man doesn’t respect u and sounds wicked enough to kill you if u stick around too long before leaving- the longer u stay he gets more entitled.

@Leyla I am so sorry you’re dealing with that💔 you can’t keep letting this ex control your happiness even while you are separated. It is you he has that control over and not your new partner so chances of him having the balls to hurt or fight a new man in your life is slim. He will say it to you because he knows u fear him but i bet he doesn’t mess with random people whose confidence and boundaries he hasn’t studied or tested. Abusive men are normally cowards and weaklings who prey on those they see as vulnerable and weaker. Take your power back❤️

@Sadia I'm working on myself and pray every day. So I feel like I'm getting stronger and not let him push me around anymore. I'm better than 2 years ago, but he will be in her life forever;( And she loves him so much, I hope he doesn't break her heart one day. Thanks for your kind words

@Sadia he doesn’t he buys everything does all shopping himself so I’ve no money since I quit my job when we got married,my boss told me I can’t work with her coz she doesn’t like someone who lives out,was taking care of her kid and her mum,I’m from Africa

@Sadia no family no friends just his him and his parents,we started having issues on our wedding day when he said that we are going to honeymoon with my8year old step daughter and I said no,I ask him to cancel honeymoon then plan for family vacation which he refuse,he then change the destination then we went from Thursday to Sunday since then he sees me as bad mother like I’m jealous of her daughter I said no I’m also a-mother I’ve to girls in my previous relationship how can I be jealous so things are not okey with me,as I’m typing he is not around if I heard the car I’ll start shaking sweat and my heart panic ,I fear him like something else he didn’t beat me but the insults like fuck you bitch,jus made me have fear,I’m not getting rid of the pregnancy if I run I’ll run with it,I know if I reach African international co parenting won’t be easy and he will give up

Oh my goodness! I am so sorry! This is terrible! I wish these rejects would stop crossing international waters to bring foreigners into their toxic misery while pretending to be upstanding men while courting. I too am a foreigner who migrated for marriage but my husband isn’t wicked like this despite his flaws. I really pray that u are able to figure something out hun! Can u tell ur family back home what is going on at all? How about a go fund me to raise ticket money.. only thing is u will need to hide it from him which may be tricky so maybe someone back home can set it up so that he doesn’t get access to it idk sigh. I really hate this for you

@Sadia thanx dear for kind words I hope I’ll get away out