Has your relationship changed with your in laws after baby

Eh, I think it’s still the same. It’s just only my husband’s mother, her husband (remarried) and his 4 siblings. He’s not in contact and/or speak to his biological father side of family. Only downfall for me is that my mother in law is not very involved. Rarely visit, ask about them or would talk about taking my oldest (5) for a sleep over and they’ll go do xyz but it never happens. Or, when my son would want to stay the night. She’d have an excuse not to. It would always be, “oh, maybe next time/weekend”. The time comes, never bothered or mentioned about it.

It’s hard to comment to be honest because I think I am changing a lot as a person and having moved out into my house with 2 kids on my own I have started reacting on what my inlaws say as an example they would sometimes say things as a joke or even mock me in JOKE i would let it go before being mum of two but now I’m too mentally physically spiritually tired that I can’t take it and the worse part is I still can’t answer them back, in 3 years only reacted to one thing last week which has made me so much regret that I should’ve shut up and not opened up because they’ve all changed towards me , I feel they dotn understand the fact that I’m struggling a lot mentally and I also feel they dotn care about it which hurts a lot so I’ve eventually said to myself I ain’t visit them a lot and so won’t upset myself by being around them . So my situation it’s not going good with my in laws .

Worse my mil makes me sick

Very much! I dont want them after having a baby. They also seem to be worse and lost our privacy and boundaries.

Got worse. Mil made comments my entire pregnancy trying to make demands to be in the room when he was born, at every appt, telling me I didn't know what I was doing, etc. made my delivery about her(nurse actually told her to leave) there was a lot of broken trust and hurt and she doesnt see what she did wrong(told me I was wrong for feeling the way I did) I've distanced myself and my son. My husband has too. Every boundary or rule she's tried to break. I won't let her hold my son due to the mistrust. She hasn't called/texted in over a month until last Friday trying to take me to lunch for mother's Day(I had the weekend planned out and it's summer so we're always busy, they know this) she got mad I didn't want to cancel my plans for my first (after years of trying, IVF, 3 losses etc) mothers day to spend with her.

@Kati Wow, She sounds like a nightmare! Not sure why a grandchild makes them go so loopy 🫠

And that's not even everything. My son is the first grandbaby for the in laws and my mom. He's my dad's 6th. it doesn't matter, it doesn't give an excuse to be a douche. my in laws (partially because I have bad anxiety when the thought of getting with them) have only seen my son twice and maybe a total of 3 hours. they constantly want pictures which we refuse because we don't trust them(we don't want them online or sent to extended family that treats me like shit) but because they don't check in or the first thing that's said is "how's the baby?" Not "hey how are you guys what's going on" just immediately about my son. No ma'am

@Kati i can totally relate to this.

Worse. She was so disgustingly clingy in the early days, spent far too much time in the NICU (blocking me seeing my own baby), gave him an ugly ugly name in the old language, insisted on showing up every day unannounced to the hospital when I didn’t even want her there, then kept bringing her piss smelling friends to our house when baby was small. So fucking rude

So much worse. We had clear boundaries for what we wanted and needed when baby was first born and those weren’t respected. After our baby was born I no longer accepted the disrespect and they don’t want to work on things and change behaviour so we rarely see them.