Panic attacks about ice

Hey y’all, I just don’t know what to do… my husband is having panic attacks because of all the stuff about people being taken off the streets and sent away. Most of his family is here and they all have either citizenship or green cards. He was born here and served in the military but he’s worried that it won’t be enough if he were to ever come in contact with law enforcement. He was freaking out tonight and telling me that I don’t understand his fear because I’m white. And it’s true I don’t have the same fear that he does because I feel like he should be safe. I don’t know how to comfort him or share in his anxiety about the situation. I’m not reacting the way he wants me to react but I’m not sure what my reaction should be… I’m not being heartless I care deeply about him and his family and I am worried about his parents. But I feel powerless to help them right now. There isn’t a clear line of action to keep everyone safe. I feel like he needs someone else to talk to that cannot only empathize with him but is actually going through the same fear he is. Lord help us.

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Unfortunately I feel like he is very right to be anxious. People are being profiled and taken regardless of their citizenship status, and without any trial or due process. (Meaning there is no way of knowing if they are even an immigrant at all) It has happened many times already to people who are minors, have no criminal background and have a visa, green card etc. I would do research on the cecot prison in El Salvador, the signs of facism and what the early holocaust looked like, as there are several parallels. I’m so sorry that you and your husband are going through so much stress. I’m sure it’s taking a significant toll on you both. I feel that he probably just wants to be understood and not feel crazy, because saying these things out loud can definitely seem like reading too deep into things or fear mongering. Maybe ask him if there is any action he wants you to take, as in migrate, protest, not go out alone or to certain areas, stay close to family or any other ideas. Best wishes❤️

Hey, so few questions for you. Where are you located and is your husband still serving (Active / National Guard / IRR) or has he completely ETSed and have had his entire contact served? Thins I recommend him doing: 1. Carry his state ID with him everywhere 2. Carry his CAC / Veterans ID everywhere 3. Know the local laws regarding this.

@Sherri He did five years active and 3 years inactive reserve so his contract is up. I think he might carry his discharge papers in his wallet. Is a veteran’s ID available if he didn’t retire? We live in Austin. There’s a part of me that thinks if we got his parents here from Denver and moved to a house in a small town they would be safer but I’m not sure if that’s true…

Yeah, as long as he served on Active Duty he can get a veterans ID through the VA

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