Uninvolved grandparents

My mum is a boomer and doesn’t do much with my daughter when we go over to her house. Then there’s my MIL in Ireland (we live in Australia) and it’s always me trying to keep the contact or reaching out to her for video chat with my daughter and send her pics on the latest updates. I mean so hubby has a cousin out west and he asked his mum to save up and come down under to visit and she makes it work l, but my MIL zero, zilch, na-da.. 🤷‍♀️ I guess in a way I feel kind of jealous because there’s other grandchildren there and she’s involved with them but never asks about my daughter unless I initiate it.. and another grandchild in the US, she seems to visit them often like almost every other year or every year because it’s cheaper but why doesn’t she save up or put away money to come see us in Australia? I’m not trying to be an A/H but I’m just trying to understand it though I do feel jealous and feel maybe there is favouritism..? I’m not sure unless I’m just reading it wrong. But yeah… just an annoyed tired mum without a village.. *** I might add that MIL said she was gonna visit us late last year around November and I was waiting for it to happen but it never did and because the family and I are in a group chat. I find out later she had photos sent and she was in the US with her other son & his family. I’m trying not to be bitter about it but it just rubs me the wrong way when she said she was coming to see us but turns around and goes to the US instead. 😟😞😪 That’s why I think favouritism…
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Hey mama - sorry to hear. I grew up with somewhat uninvolved grandparents on my mom’s side. My cousins step gran was very involved with us (she was our au-pair) but loved us like her own. Building a village doesn’t need to be blood relatives. Look for ways to get your child involved with other elder people. Try look and see if there are any old age homes looking for socialising with children. It’s so special to see someone elder love on and play with your children. I’d not try to make the effort all the time as it’s a two way street. Jealousy is normal but don’t let it affect your life so much.

I try and make connections and even with my friends but they have their own lives and own families so they’re already busy 😟😔 I definitely know about the two way street but I just find it hard that MIL & my mum dint really make an effort and it’s just sad.. while I see others out and about with their grandkids and mine.. nonexistent 😣🙁

Has your husband asked MIL and been honest with her?

@Cassie I haven’t spoken to hubby about it but I think I might because it’s really bothering me now and for a while..

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