When to tell toddler son he had surgery as a baby?

My son is now 3 years old and when he was 1 month old he had corrective surgery on his stomach muscles. He was unable to keep feeds down as his stomach muscles were too thick (pyloric stenosis). There is 3 faint 1cm light scars on his stomach— I was wondering is there a best age to let him know where his scars came from? I think I would feel weird only finding out as a older child if I was him? All I know is to use the language “poorly stomach” rather than “bad stomach” :) any help would be appreciated thank you!

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When he’s old enough to understand what a surgery is my wee boy is 3 and when he seen my scar I just told him I hurt my self because he worry’s when he has a cut or anything

Wow this is such a good question my 6 month old has had a surgery in his stomach (jejunal atresia) and he had a feeding G tube , both scars are there and I wonder when I will tell him too ❤️

As a mother you will know how much your child understands things or when he will become curious. I’ve never gone into too much detail with my boys. Around the age of 5/6 when they can process information like that and is curious. I would say tell him only if he wants to know and not because you want him to know. Of course that’s what I would do but do what feels right for you hun. X

When he asks. He’s young and that kind of things not on his mind. And when he does ask, just say you had a boo boo that the doctors helped to make better. Don’t overthink this one 😊

My son had surgery on his tummy at 3 days old as he was born with some of his bowel stuck on the outside, they managed to repair it so you can’t even see a scar now as they hid it in his designer belly button! I think when he’s older if he wants to see baby pictures of himself he’ll see they look different to his sisters as he was in Nicu so it’ll probably come up naturally! Same with your son i’d say wait till he asks, I don’t think it’ll be weird he’ll ask the question when he’s old enough to receive the answer and just put a positive spin on it like the amazing surgeons were able to help you keep your milk down by giving you a little surgery to make you better!

In my opinion, when he is old enough to ask about it. When he understands scars and asks what happened there, you can tell him what happened. Or if you want him to know earlier you can just be like hey do you see this scar? Well when you were itty bitty- etc.