Let’s be honest, How many of you have fucked up a relationship with a good man?

I almost have. Learning to listen and be humble is so hard. Learning to submit to a great man is even harder. When I say that word, I DO NOT mean full authority and they can walk all over you. What I mean by that word is really you trusting a good man and giving up the bad parts of yourself for that trusting and loving connection. It’s tough because those parts exist to protect you and that’s when I mean what I say, he’s got to be worthy. Worth is developed over time through happy moments and even tough ones too. Communicate and forgive. That’s a road that’s never 50/50.

Omg @Stefaney I agree with you 100% listening and learning to submit is hard. Trusting anyone especially a good man to lead you after so long of just doing things your way is even harder. I wish I would’ve healed those parts of me before meeting them.

I broke up with my now husband for a couple months. I was scared because things were going too well and he was treating me right. I was used to narcissistic assholes who cheat and treat me like shit. Luckily i came to my senses and got back together. Been married almost 5 years with 2 kids.

@Cindye well it’s human nature to have broken parts. Sometimes those won’t go away. It’s just important to realize the parts you don’t like, understand why they exist, to forgive yourself for what happened, but most importantly to keep trying and change what you want to see in yourself change. Life is a tough, so take care, but smile along your journey. 😊

@M 🍃🌷🐈‍⬛ I’ve heard all over social media that a lot of women won’t know what to do with a good man if he presented himself so women self sabotage: and I couldn’t agree more with that, for myself anyways.

@Stefaney I love that, I don’t want to believe I’m set on my ways for the rest of my life but I also have learn to understand why it exists. My ex partner would ask me all the time why I would do something or react a certain way and my answer was always idk

@Cindye yup! I self sabotagged my relationship with him for so long and he was always so patient, so understanding, he always reassured me. But in my head it didnt make any sense and it freaked me out.

@M 🍃🌷🐈‍⬛ that’s whats up. My ex would tell me after 3 yrs that I’m an adult act like one and then his patience ran out

I did. They were good men yet not compatible for me so I have absolutely no regrets

I almost have . But I got my act together . I was very aggressive, argumentative and a know it all . I also didn’t trust men . But the lord changed me

@Cindye I’m in the process of self sabotage right now 🥺

Nice guys are great but this can get boring.

@Lashay yes me too except i still haven’t got my act together it’s, frustrating, how long did it take for you to get your act together? @Zaza so am I 😩

@Cindye it’s took some years . A lot of Bible reading and prayer to Jesus . It takes alot of practice .

@Cindye I keep failing miserably. We had a lovely evening out last night and it ended horribly because I went into self sabotage mode. I need to pray more over this 🥺🙏🏾🙏🏾 self awareness is the most important thing so as long as we are aware of our flaws there is hope to improve and do better. It’s hard though.