Husband doesn’t want anyone else to look after our baby alone.

Can you ask him if there is a way he would be more comfortable or how you could build up that trust. Can your mum can and look after her for an hour while you are in the house if needed or take her to the park and you just sit on a bench while they play etc. if he's worried about it try and make a plan to make him more comfortable it's so helpful having family that nearby to help

@flo He just says not until she is older he is not comfortable yet and keeps telling me when he is less busy he will help but I need help now 😭 he is completely shut off from the idea

That sounds so tough! But if he isn't even helping you so need help and family are willing and local hes going to have to allow it at some point. Why does the she matter really they are quite independent now, less naps, less milk, eating normal food I'd say it's the perfect time. Sure he have a milestone he is waiting for it what is his reason for waiting till they are older. If it was my husband I'd tell him it was what's happening and that's that if there is a way to make him more contractable with it sure but a plain no yet isn't really an option

@Flo yeah it’s so frustrating but at the same time I’m thinking if it was me that wasn’t comfortable with someone from his family having the baby then I would want him to respect my wishes. I don’t want to say it’s happening anyway and just bring her to my mum if he is not ready as I wouldn’t like this done to me. But I really need him to get on board with this as it’s building resentment and making me feel trapped and overwhelmed

Can your mum come round for a few hours at yours to look after little one so you can shower, nap just rest. Then you are there and respecting his wishes but getting some help and a break x

@Flo that’s a good idea I’ll tell him that’s the best solution atm. I mean ideally I would like the house to myself to relax but I guess that’s a compromise of some kind 😇😂

I would be scheduling my own time once a week where I wasn’t at home and looking after the baby - I’d then say to him you need to look after the baby on this day and time or you need to find someone that you’re comfortable with to do so. I’m sorry but your husband is putting his needs above yours and it’s not fair.