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Doesn’t want dada at all

My husband works 10-11 hour days. I’m a SAHM and have never left my baby for more than a few hours here and there. We are together constantly and I LOVE it! … but recently whenever my husband comes home from work, she is hysterical after being happy and fine all day. No matter what he does, she doesn’t want to be with him. She doesn’t want to play with him or have him feed her etc. I feel so bad because he works all day and then wants to come home and enjoy that hour and a half they have together before 7pm bedtime. Any ideas? We have him playing with her while I cook dinner, assisting feeding her at the table, and then doing bath time and getting her ready for bed just the two of them. Recently she has been screaming and crying the entire time they’re alone. Im trying not to go in there and comfort her so that she can learn to be comforted by him, but it’s not working. The other night she wouldn’t eat dinner in her chair that’s between us, she’d only eat in my lap. It makes me feel so bad for my husband!! He’s trying so hard and is a good dad and provider.

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I’m in the same boat, this is how my son is! I always feel so bad bc my husband is amazing, but everything we try doesn’t work. He just wants his mama 😭

My LO is similar and prefers me but she will stay with him as long as she doesn’t see me. However she is obsessed with my dad and prefers him over anyone. She loves being outside and my dad takes her outside, lets her touch the trees, puts her on the car, touches the ring door bell, touches the fridge magnets, etc. Maybe find something they love or have your husband do something similar. Anytime my baby sees grandpa she throws herself to him and is ready to go explore outside.

We are definitely in the same boat! I found playing peekaboo as I walk away has been helpful. So it’s like a game. I also keep certain toys out of the playroom until dad comes home. Then he can be associated with the New/fun toy that she wants.

I will tell you the same I tell every SAHM. Leave them in they business. On his day off, step away and let dad handle it. You will see the change when you get back home. Plus you need some time. No matter if we love it with baby, you need an hour or 3 to go refresh.