Does anyone else feel like you have to have a literal break down and cry for your husband to get the message that I need help!
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I am totally with you on this one. No solutions, just sympathy 💕
Yep, I ended up on antidepressants, and honestly I completely resent him for it. He doesn’t get that if he’d just listened to me the first 10 times I asked for help I probably would be ok. He still doesn’t get it now, and just expects the anti-depressants to make everything better. I don’t have any advice, as like you I’ve asked nicely over and over again, and if I snap at him he acts as though there’s something wrong with me 🤷🏼♀️.
@Em literally when I tell him I need help it’s like he switches off and gets moody as if I am having a go/complaining at him. No I’m literally on the verge of a breakdown & it is making me resent him that he doesn’t help despite me asking many times.
@Em he also told me once that her napping for an hour is the same as him taking her for an hour 😑
Yep, my husband said that because he works 3 hours more than me per week then all the household chores should be my responsibility, but then he won’t look after the kids to let me do them 🙃
@Em omg exactly! The ‘time to myself’ that I ask him for isn’t even really for myself it’s to catch up on cleaning the house that he lives in too 🫤 Wtf
My husband is great with giving me time. It's me that feels guilty 🤦♀️ My little girl is attached to me too so cries when I leave a room. My husband has had to have talks with me to just leave, as soon as I'm gone and she is distracted, she forgets and is happy with him or her grandparents etc. 😂 I do know that I need a break and we have had some serious conversations about it. I think communicating is so important, it's taken us a while to get to this point.
Yup. Mines useless. I don’t want to break down and cry. I just resent him and keep going x
I feel you it's sooo hard ive got toddler she pushing boundaries n feels like all I do is tell her off 😕 only break I feel like have is when nip to shop alone or sit on toilet bit can still here them lol
We really used to be like this so I get you, sending love. Weve had a few serious chat over the last year to be honest I didn't think it was going to click. But in all our communication I've learnt he feels like he doesn't know what to do to help or realize when it's time to step up. Now I just outright tell him and he's so much more comfortable with knowing what to do and I feel so much more supported. I think for a long time I just thought he could read my mind. Might not be what works for you but have a chat think when it would be more useful to be a team. Can you implement taking it in turns for bedtime or Sunday mornings Daddy time for example