Do I need to have a baby shower?

28 weeks pregnant and been asked a few times when the baby shower is but I never thought about having one. I'm quite an anxious girl, on a budget, living in a flat. I only have 2/3 friends who I don't see very often (none of them know each other) but my other halfs family is quite big. I am not British so my family isn't here so I just have my mum who's also quite anti social and doesn't speak great English. I don't really know what to do, any suggestions? How much are baby showers for like 10 people? It's making me sooo anxious

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I didn’t have a baby shower and I don’t feel I missed out ❤️ xx

Don't feel obligated to have one! I didn't do one because my friends either live quite spread out or don't know each other so I thought it would make me too anxious and I wouldn't enjoy it. So I decided not to have one and I haven't regretted it at all.

I'm 30 weeks and not having one. I cba with organising it. I've got too much else to sort first and I'd rather sort that 😂

I had one for first and I found it awkward and I’m not having for my second x

Nope. Didn’t want one. Some people wanted to throw me a surprise one and were told if that happened, I wouldn’t be there. It’s not compulsory and it’s relatively recent that they even started here. It’s more of a US tradition.

I didn’t have one and don’t feel like I missed out at all, I won’t be having one this time either 🤍

Thank you all, made me feel much better reading your comments. I just don't really like the idea of mixing different parts of the family and friends and being in the middle of it all. Just tired of constantly being asked about having one xxx

I felt the same, didn’t want to mix family / friends, I felt awkward, then some friends don’t make an effort during your pregnancy but if you don’t invite them you feel guilty etc so I decided against it. All I kept hearing was ‘are you having a baby shower’ it was annoying! Xx

I didn't have one as I hate being the centre of attention 🤭

Never had a baby shower as I hate being centre of attention. My partners family were going to take me out for afternoon tea which am still waiting for 17 months down the line x

IM having one but my friend is organising it and it’ll be at my parents house and lots of the guests will be my mums friends (people who have known me since I was a baby). We aren’t doing any of the baby shower activities think it’ll just a bbq and some gifts. If my friend wasn’t organising it and it wasn’t at my parents house I defo wouldn’t have had one too much stress xxx

@Julia imagine baby turns 18 years old and they finally take you 😂😂

I might be having one but just family, and that’s only because my sister in law offered to organise it otherwise I wouldn’t have bothered. I’ve also decided no friends as then gets too stressful then