Toxic family

Tried to set boundaries so my MIL called me an unfit mother, she showed up unannounced later and started a verbal fight with my husband and he tried to walk back inside so she tried to push through him to get in the house to finish yelling at him (me and my infant were inside), then later emailed my husband and said she’d pay him to divorce me so I don’t think we will ever let them back in

I went no contact with my father. He insulted and threatened my husband, continued to break promises, and let my children down. This is only scratching the surface.

Insulting my husband, who is a good man and a good father. And said he chooses to not like them. Even though they are drug addicts, emotionally abusive and alcoholics and mentally ill. I was like…. Of course he isn’t comfortable around you!

Cut my mum off because she invited a sibling i had no relationship with for 10+ years to my bedside after i had a 2nd trimester loss in hospital knowing i wouldn’t want that sibling there and made me uncomfortable, sibling was also pregnant too and due a month before i was reminding me of what id just lost, while i was sent to theatre for surgery they held my baby boy and spoke all about her pregnancy while my partner and his family sat crying at our loss while waiting for me to arrive back from surgery safely after losing a lot of blood When planning the funeral i told my mum the sibling wouldn’t be invited to which she replied asking if i could just put my feelings aside for the funeral and allow the sibling to attend as she “didn’t have the heart” to tell her she wasn’t invited prioritising my distant siblings feelings over mine at the worst time in my life

My cousin told me he didn’t care if I was breathing and outright disrespected me told me to suck his d* called me all types of b*s all bc me and another cousin was texting back and forth in the family group chat and instead of him just muting the chat he decided to disrespect me while all the other family members watched laughed and thought it was “tea” haven’t spoken to none of them after that

They collectively played in my face and isolated me at a family event until I up and left after that I went no contact with EVERYBODY but my grandma that was almost 5 years ago

I had my first kid. My daughter. My narcissistic mother did another game and act. Said hurtful things. (By text and calling) I never realized how bad it was until I actually became a mother. Made me look at my innocent little daughter. Then i re read her text message. I replied to her saying she can leave, she doesn’t need to threaten or belittle me. My last words were “your wish is my command, goodbye” Bc she was threatening to leave me all alone blah blah blah. So 🤷‍♀️ cya! She never answered nor talked to me since. It’s been almost 4 years.

Having my son. I put up with it up when it was just me but I couldn’t have any of it around my son. I want to stop the generational trauma from continuing and enjoy motherhood in peace. Good luck with whatever you decide !