He's the perfect dad but horrible partner
What do I do? He literally despises me. We’ve been together 7 years and had our daughter 5 years in. Before pregnancy there were instances of violence and we’ve always had bad fights when the fights do occur. Even though violence hasn't happened in almost 3 years, I'm still terrified anytime he gets a certain tone in his voice. Granted, he would always tell me to leave him alone and I wouldn't because I was a teenager with abandonment issues so I would probably sh and then the violence happened. Now I’m a grown up with abandonment issues lol. He's so good to our daughter. He's patient with her and treats her like a princess. I don't get the same luxury. I'm currently in the car hearing about everything that's wrong with me. I don't know how else to describe besides he just hates me. I can't be the woman he wants. He wants a woman to shut up and not express herself. I can't do this anymore I don't know what to do.
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And this all so much remind me of my dad. And I will hate him forever for how he treated my mom. He eventually was awful to my siblings and I too. But most of it was on my mom. I feel so much guilt that she stay because of us.
Your partner is your daughters first role model on how a man treats a woman and what’s acceptable treatment from your partner. Just remember that when you think of how wonderfully he treats her now - she’s going to see how he treats you, and you both deserve better then that
Are you sure he’s good to her when you’re not around?
Don’t be with him then y torture yourself that way
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Please make a plan to leave. I understand this is easier said than done. But if he is treating you this way, he is far from perfect. And what do you think will happen with your kid grows up and is not longer a cute little baby/toddler? I almost guarantee he will start being nasty with her too.