Night routine

My 16 week old usually wants his nighttime milk between 7:30 and 8:00 p.m. By 7:30, he’s already getting cranky and wants to have his milk in the bedroom. If I feed him downstairs he gets fussy and is only happy in the bedroom at that time. After his feed, I change him into his nightwear. Some nights, he wants to be held until he falls asleep, and on other nights, he’ll drift off on his own by around 9:00 p.m. He often opens his eyes slightly to check if I’m still in the room. So I can't really leave the room once he sleeps. It might sound like the ideal bedtime routine, but it comes with its own challenges. My husband leaves for work at 7:00 a.m. and returns home around 7:30 p.m., which means we no longer get to have dinner together. Since he needs to wake up early, he aims to be in bed by 10:00 p.m., so asking him to wait until after 9:00 p.m. to spend time together doesn’t really work either. Ive tried getting the little one to nap around 7pm to delay his bedtime but he gets upset and will end up waking multiple times in the night. How are you all managing time with your partners while juggling your baby’s routine? I maybe wishing for too much. Sleep regression may be round the corner.