My narcissist husband new episode

Hey girls, i’m with my husband since 3 years we have a 16mo and second baby on the way.. he is a big big big narcissist i tried to leave so many times but you know. Since two days im very confuse because he is acting really weird, never saw him like that and never had this kind of conversation with him. Out of nowhere he decide to talk about his feelings. let me explain. He started saying that he realize how much a waste man he is, how much he ruined everything about his life, how much he hurt his « loved ones », how much pain he’s got. He saying that he pretended to be a man, he is a p**sy, he cant control his emotions and treat me right, he saying everything was fake about been strong he’s a little boy. He was keep saying stuff like that and crying. He saying the root of this it’s his mum, that he hates her cause she abandoned him, she never loved him properly etc. at first i was like just gonna try to listen to his bullshit cause he’s gonna end up saying it’s my fault but he didn’t and i was suprise. but the cherry on the cake was, he want to see a THERAPIST to feel better, he want to speak to someone he don’t know and be helped, i cannot believe this, i don’t know if what he’s saying is real or nah. He looks and act weird i never saw him like that, to be honest, i conclude that he was at the end of his pain or something, that his game doesn’t work anymore (like in general on me for example) like can this happened? I don’t want to get fool by him again, cause i never saw him act like that and talk like that i don’t understand what is really going on. is anyone had this with a narcissist before?

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@Lyss omg is he lying for real. i can’t believe it. I never saw him like that is like the world fall on his head and he realize how shit he is. why does he use that now? as im still here for now even i know who is he really.

And I’ll add one more thing. Just cuz he says he wants to see a therapist doesn’t mean he will. Words mean nothing with no action. If he wants to see a therapist why is he telling you about what he wants to do and just go see a therapist. He’s a grown up and can pick up the phone anytime. And even if he goes to one therapy doesn’t mean he is doing the work. He needs to be in therapy for a while. To show he is willing to put in the work. And it has to be a therapist who understands trauma and one that understands narcissism. Because a lot of therapists don’t see narcissism cuz they are good at manipulating therapists. So it’s a slippery slope. That he has to work on. Continuously. So before you think he is a changed man make sure you see him doing the actual change and work before running back to him.

Thank you @Lyss she needed the painful ugly truth to know what she is dealing with

@Lyss he will still play victim at the therapist if he eventually goes and you will end up the crazy person

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