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I’m a single mum of one, I’m just having a day where I’m overthinking everything, wondering if I’m good enough wondering if bringing my son into the world without a dad is unfair. I went out on Friday night, bumped into someone who I know deep down doesn’t like me she was saying things like ‘it’s disgusting’ bringing a baby into the world without a dad and not knowing who his dad is, just judging me and my situation, and she’s obviously heard something which was a thoughtless stupid decision I had made. Yes I don’t know for certain my sons dad, I’ve tried what I can in regards of getting a dna test done to find out etc. however the potentials aren’t bothered! So if I can bring my son up alone and wanted him when I found out, what business is it to anyone else?! I just wish people would think twice before judging. My son saved me as I always wanted to be a mother, but got told it wouldn’t happen/couldn’t happen. And I was also 3 months pregnants and didn’t know so there was no way I was getting rid and I’m glad I didn’t. But it hurts that people say these things, walking into it I knew I’d be doing it alone but recently the weight of things have been heavy. And not knowing hurts, but who I truly believe is the dad took a downwards spiral and wouldn’t be any good anyway, but people are mean and nasty and I wish they would just let me flourish as a single mum. All I wanted in life was to be a mum, I got that chance and I’m doing well but these things hurt that people say and weigh heavy when I’m alone, he’s with my parents today and I’m working but I am overthinking everything, does he deserve more?! 😒
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Learn more about our guidelines.I'll be honest, it's not a decision I'd have made. There will come a time when your son will ask who his dad is, and you can't tell him, which will suck ngl. However, it's done now and if you truly own your decision, then you won't let anyone else's opinion bother you
@Rebecca I’m just feeling so guilty. And peoples opinions do hurt. At the end of the day it’s our life. I just hope my son doesn’t hate me for this as I love him so much more than anything in the world
He has you and so many babies are brought into the world and not loved or wanted as much. It’s hard meeting people and the right people don’t always work out, I’d know as a single mum too, but you have been given a beautiful gift and your baby will love you no matter what. Please be kind to yourself and ignore what others say.
Who cares what other people think! That woman means nothing to you
You love your boy and he loves you, that’s all that matters. List everything you have and what you’re grateful for and you’ll see how great you are 💞
People are disgusting . If you’ve got nothing good to say . Say nothing at all . You will do your best to ensure your son has the best life. .
I was married, had a child. Together for another 18 months, when my child was 3 his dad stopped contacting him or me, ( there was a lot going on up to that point) so even in situations like that your child can still grow up without a parent. My son is 7 now and doesn’t have a dad only my dad and my sisters boyfriend, my daughter was a sperm donor baby ( literally he does sperm donation 😂) so she won’t fully have her dad around. Your son might not actually care, you have no idea what is going to happen, maybe the potential father’s family could help you?
My son is happy without his dad in actual fact he said he doesn’t like his dad 🤷♀️ x
@Faye I needed to hear this, thank you so much for your kind words. It’s hard enough being a mum without people’s judgements. I’d do anything in this world to ensure my son is happy cared for and has all he needs. When he’s old enough I will explain the situation and the not knowing and having no information on his dad, but I’m sure he’ll understand that he was wanted by me (I hope anyways) I just hope he doesn’t resent me for it. He’s my miracle and biggest blessing in life x
My oldest daughter doesn’t have a “father” and it wasn’t until after I had my boy that she started to question at 6 year old who her dad was etc. It has never affected her and quite frankly she doesn’t care. When she asked about him I just said that he wasn’t ready to be a dad but if she ever wants to meet him all she has to do is ask and I will ask him xx