Name Calling!

I am in quite a toxic relationship with my little boys dad. We haven’t been getting on since he was born with a lot of falling out, making up, breaking up. It’s tiring.
We had an argument today, he snapped at my LO because he was whinging for crisps, I said don’t talk to him like that he then went on to say I’ve put him in a mood. We had a few words and he called me a Stupid Fxxxxxg cxxt. I don’t name call especially not words like that I told him to never call me such nasty names again. I am very angry. Would you be also? All this was in front of the boys.

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Woman to woman, eventually you have to STOP tolerating disrespect. Especially in front of your children, ESPECIALLY bc they’re BOYS. They’re gonna think it’s absolutely okay to put down women like that, which it isn’t. Would he tolerate someone calling his sister those words? (if he has one) or his mother? Even then what’s his mother taught him exactly??? He sounds like a horrible person who can’t manage his temper, now I know having children can put a massive effect on a relationship but even after more than one child if he’s still behaving like that then he needs to seek help if he loves his kids or he can go. And tbh I don’t think there’s any love between you two considering you’ve labelled it as a toxic relationship, I hope things genuinely get easy for you. Don’t let that man walk all over you! 😕😕

My husband would only get away with that once. In fact, he wouldn't get away with it because I would leave him as soon as he said it. There is no need for it, especially not in front of children.

Name calling is still verbal abuse. You are in an abusive relationship. People often like to dismiss it and think it’s harmless as your partner isn’t being violent towards you, but in a lot of cases it’s worse as the psychological and emotional trauma stays with you for years.

I would leave. Name calling only ever escalates. He’s called you a cunt. In front of your children. So he’s also emotionally abusing them too. Absolutely unforgivable and the level of disrespect towards the mother of his children is insane.

I would leave him. There’s no way I’m letting any man especially your child’s father talk to you that way ever. You should believe in yourself your children need more than that an if he won’t change his behaviour then I would be gone with the kids

He needs to have some damn respect for you

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Post partum dad

I have a 2 month old. A few weeks ago my husband crashed out because he didn't feel like he was getting to bond with her. I started exclusively breastfeeding around that time and honestly didnt see the big deal. Baby and I left for a few days and when we got back home, everything was fine. He was extremely hands-on. He helped with my meals, her bedtime, bath, stories.....for a few weeks it was great. Then he randomly sounds depressed af. He says our lo is better off without him, he wants to sleep all day , he asks me not to watch tv then tried playing a video game. He refused to reply to me when i asked any follow-up questions. Then he woke up our baby trying to race me to the bathroom first thing in the morning . He's doing a weird mix of crying, trying, and giving up. Im starting to feel like I cant handle him not being able to handle life with baby and just want to be alone. Are there resources for men?

Is it bad of me to think this or no?

My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

My 2 year old won’t eat nothing but snacks

Is this normal ? He won’t even try anything I eat .. he really only like pizza fries and spaghetti… nuggets and snacks bananas some other fruit but like anything else he won’t eat if try but I don’t want to force him I’m just I feel like bad I mean he isn’t losing weight I breastfeed mostly still

Really bothered by this

A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide

Shift worker daddies - advice please?

My husband works shifts (6am-6pm days or 6pm-6am nights) so when he’s on shift we either get about an hour or 2 before he goes to work or an hour or 2 when we gets home with him.

I don’t think people who aren’t married/have babies with shift workers fully understand the impact of feeling like a solo parent sometimes.

Does anyone have any advice? I do have parents who can help but I struggle to leave my baby with others as I always feel like they don’t understand the need for tracking wake windows or feeds and our baby will not sleep unless we black out a room or go for a car drive . Everyone seems to think ‘if he’s tired he’ll drop off’ - no he’ll just get overtired and have to then pay for it during his night sleep. So I feel like it’s just easier for me to do it all myself.

When my husbands off work he is great but I do take the mental load of telling him what to do or even reminding him of wake windows etc because he’s not here and forgets routines. He’s also being tested for ADHD currently so there’s that on top of shift work.

Just looking for advice on how to stay sane/keep routines or share loads with shifts workers?

Thank you ❤️

Feeling like I’m failing

Hey guys, I need some advice or some positivity here!
My daughter is 5 months next week and she has her first tooth coming through! Yay! But for the past month or so she has become so wary of family whenever I go to visit! She screams, won’t settle, cries the whole time. I went for my birthday to celebrate and I had to leave because she just would cry looking at anyone :( it’s so hard because she used to be so good with anyone!

Will this change or is this just the way she is? I try to see them as often as I can, and my MIL is looking after her in two weeks overnight and part of a day and I’m petrified of what’s going to happen, that she’s going to scream. My poor MiL 😭. I’m a very calm and collected person and I don’t get worked up when she does react this way… I just feel so sad and down that I can’t be with family and that my poor girl is scared. I give her so many cuddles, milk, toys, going to a quiet room, but she just doesn’t settle 😭

Please someone say this is a phase and there is light at the end of the tunnel ?!!

With the weather getting nicer I just feel we are going to miss out on so many lovely family memories