Help a single mummy out…

So my little girl who’s 4 sees her daddy every Sunday unless he’s working. Every time she comes home she’s always full of smiles and says how much fun she’s had. Her daddy now has another partner and they have had a baby together back in February and my little girl goes round every weekend to see her new brother. So going back to not last weekend but the weekend before my little girl slept over at her dads all went well, she got dropped off on Sunday morning but didn’t seem herself I just put it down to her being tired as she’d had a late night. Anyway fast forward to Monday, she goes to nursery was playing with shaving foam where another child had said to the teacher “my daddy uses this when he’s shaving” and upon pickup they pulled me to one side and inform me that she’s said some stuff that had shocked them. My little girl said “I don’t have a daddy” When I’ve spoken to her about it all calmly she’s turned round and said “I don’t like my daddy and I want a new daddy” I’ve tried saying to her that she does have a daddy and he loves her lots, but when I do, she just keeps breaking down and saying “but he loves my baby brother more than me and doesn’t show me love” it’s breaking me, she’s also not wanting to eat much. I just don’t know what to do. Anyone experienced anything similar and I’d so what did you do

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Talk to her dad and tell him that he needs to spend some one on one time with her again- even if he just takes her to the park after dinner for half an hour one evening a week. He needs to be aware that she is missing him

Aw yea I think it's a momentary issue hopefully. It's so hard to get a new sibling in the mix. I'd definitely speak to him and see if he can add in an extra day of time to spend just them two here and there because it's obviously affecting her and she needs that reassurance for a while

My son is still going through this now. We believe he feels like he is not good enough and therefore got replaced because of it and he has all these mixed emotions about it which he can't quite communicate well yet and that resulted in some tantrums and wanting to be babied. I don't think there is anything we as parents can do other than reassuring him he's still very much loved and spending more one on one time with him when his brother is sleeping which he absolutely loves but then seems to default back to being down and upset when he's awake and has shared attention again but also seems to be getting better now that he is able to play with his brother more. It's heartbreaking but we continue to reassure him til he believes it.

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