I'm grateful but I feel ungrateful

my kids dad got me so mad right now told me that I can't always protect my kids even when they're adults. This conversation was brought up because I told him that I don't feel comfortable going to church because I feel sad when I hear church songs, then I said to my kids dad should I force myself go to church just for my kids? Because my 6 yr old daughter told me she wants me to go with her to church. Then my kids dad told me what if our kids are adults? Then what if they want to go to a church and a event by their self, I told him we have to talk to our kids be careful going to church and to events, tell them about don't go in no strangers vehicles, then he said to me we can't always be there with our kids that's stalking them,then I said we should track their location make sure being back home safe. This world is scary and fear from all the rapists, killers, murders, traffickers and kidnappers, any ideas what other ways to talk to my kids and when your kids turn to adults to be safe and careful when they go out by their self? I lost a lot of love ones, I'm so worried about my kids growing up in this world by themselves without me then get a call or seeing on the news about my kids got hurt or something worse that I wasn't there for my kids because I let them go out by their self, I don't want never in my life seeing my kids gone before me, I keep telling myself if my kids are gone before me I will lose myself.

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Does she have a friend that goes to church? You can drop her off with a friend and their parent and pick her up at the end. Or they can save you a seat and you can come in 20 minutes into the service after the singing part is over. Her dad could take her to church. Or, she could start by just going to youth group and do full service in a year or two when you've had more time to adjust to her going places like school, her dad's house, classes, activities, etc. Or you can put on a church program on tv, or livesteam from your preferred church. You can't protect your kids from everything, but you can keep them reasonably safe situations until they are able to better judge danger for themselves and avoid trouble.

@Bonny yes my 6 yr old daughter has 2 friends that go to her church. Thank you for your listening and ideas, I'm just worried about when my kids get older when they go out to places by themselves, I just want to know how to not worry too much about it later on

You'll always worry about your baby. But remember, there were times you worried a lot, daily, about her falling off of playground equipment or choking on her food but now you don't really. Parenting comes in stages and some things you just can't think about too far ahead of time because your feelings and experience need time to catch up. There will be plenty of opportunities between then and now for her to show you she's ready (or not ready) for new responsibilities. Focus on teaching her values, right from wrong, thinking ahead, and how to stay safe. Practice new scenarios with her beforehand and model behavior you'd like to see. Talk out your thought process when you're making decisions. The things you say now will become her inner voice. Parenting is a slow letting go so she can fly, if you hold her back she'll never reach her potential. You don't have to do it all at once or take it all on faith. This is a great opportunity to let her show you whether she's ready for a little independence. Baby steps...👣

@Bonny thank you so much for all your reassurance words, got my head clear to slow down my worries down

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