How can I get over gender disappointment?

I know everyone says once the baby is born you just love them and gender doesn’t matter. But I’m over a year pp with my second girl and still disappointed that shes not a boy… I do love her, but I didnt want a second girl. We likely wont be having anymore and even if we did, I doubt it would ever be a boy. So how do you deal with the fact you will never have the gender you dreamed of your whole life?

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I have two boys. I eventually got over the gender disappointment. I’m 5 months postpartum. I do want another baby in the future and in hopes it’s a girl. If not, that’s okay too!

This happened to me last year I was pregnant I was told girl and then a few weeks later he was just a late bloomer and it was another boy I mourned it I did for about a week or two then I said this child is blood of my blood and a blessing to life and I will choose to celebrate him even though my heart just isn't in it but you fake something long enough you heart comes along with you where you put your effort your heart will be also so I got my sewing machine out and I made him new clothes and blankets and stuff like I had planned to for a daughter and I got to be enjoying the process a lot and I loved that boy dearly as if he was planned by the time he came I thought he was the last baby because my husband said naw no more but he was not in pregnant with a girl right now and my grandma just died so now I see I needed the girl now and it's kinda destiny the earth took a woman back from my tribe but I was also given another

I think you should look into getting counseling/therapy so your feelings don’t affect your daughter negatively

I have both genders. They have equally brought me joy and disappointments. It can be difficult if you don’t have one or the other. Each child offers so much. Breathe and watch this child change your life in ways you were never expecting