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My baby is 9 days old and since we left hospital the day after he was born I have been incredibly anxious about being discharged from the midwives this week.
This is my second child and I had the same feelings with my first but just way less intense. Knowing that the 24/7 hour support that i currently have access to, (a phone number for the consultant-led maternity ward we stayed in) is about the end, scares me so so much. I can’t deal with knowing the support is there whenever I need it, day or night, to having absolutely nothing just less than 2 weeks after my baby is born.
For background - I don’t live in a town with any family around because I moved here just before my first child was born, my parents are an hour’s train journey away. My partner works long hours, and I do not drive. I didn’t return to work so I only have one or two good friends, so I do feel like I lack a really strong support network. I am currently breastfeeding and plan on keeping this up for as long as possible, so knowing I have support is something I feel that I need.
I did end up being brave and speaking to the midwife who visited my house on day 5 about it, and ended up ugly crying in front of her. She assured me that the support doesn’t just stop, and that I can still call with any issues I have until baby is 4-6 weeks old, and you are simply just discharged from routine appointments and that I can still access midwife support as and when needed.
This would be good news to most people feeling like this, and it was a huge relief when she told me, but now my thoughts have turned to me thinking i’ll be a burden if I do need to call up when my baby is 3/4 weeks old. I know I have the GP and health visitors, but due to experiences with my first born regarding his health, I know how hard it is to access these when they are needed and being palmed off easily.
I am trying my absolute best to enjoy this newborn stage, but the countdown to this midwife appointment is at the back of my mind constantly which is making it a bit hard. I am trying to not let it take over but I just feel so incredibly anxious about being alone in all this and being left to struggle with 2 children.
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