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I gave birth 4 days ago and since then everyone and their grandmother has asked to see the baby. It pisses me off because no one ever bothered to offer help in anyway while I was pregnant. We have 2 toddlers and they havent even offered to take them to give us a small break. It's all about the baby.
They literally never visit to see me or see our older toddlers, I never hear from anyone ever, now that the baby is born its all "when can we see the baby?" "Can we drop off stuff and see the baby?" "We really want to see the baby"
like dude, my tits are out 90% of the time, I havent even showered yet since the babies been born, we literally got home 3 days ago and everyone's been making this shit about themselves. I want to snap at everyone and say "if you want to see my baby, maybe make more effort towards me and my other kids". Im just so annoyed that nothing matters until a baby is born.
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Learn more about our guidelines.Oooh I feel this! My MIL had Covid 4 days ago and wants to see my 5 day old baby.... like what!? And she complained to MY mom during my 45 freaking hours of labor that it wasn't fair she couldn't be in the hospital supporting her son, even though I hired a professional doula and midwife.
@Kailey why do people not treat sickness seriously š and im sorry, supporting her son while you were in labor????? She sounds like a nightmare im sorry š©
Thatās really frustrating. Postpartum, especially the first month, is not really the time to try to visit the baby, itās a time to take care of the mom. š¤¦š¼āāļø we set up a meal train for the first couple weeks postpartum and I put a section in it that says that a meal drop off is just that, a meal drop off, and does not entail an in-home visit. š
If I were you, I would probably say something like ābaby and I are currently establishing breastfeeding and not currently hosting guests in the home. We have a meal train set up if youād like to help us navigate this transition (if you have one lol). Otherwise we can coordinate and plan a visit in the coming weeks when weāre in more of a rhythm.ā
@Valerie that's what my husband has been telling everyone, I've been making him handle everyone lol
Thatās brilliant. lol. Thatās great heās handling it and protecting you from having to worry about that!
I gave birth a week ago and thatās exactly how Iām feeling. I feel like if nobody was worried about me and my child while we were pregnant donāt come around now, not trying to sound bitter but I just donāt like shit like that and it does hurt my feelings