DA Situation

So my ex partner just left as we had an argument, my son went out today and he stayed awake all night and a little of the day so we could spend time together. So I asked if we could play some games and he said he wanted to play his own which is fine. But I got a little tired throughout the day because I've been up around 8am the past 5 mornings, so I went for a little nap before he came home.

Around an hour after I had woken up ex partner said he was hungry and wanted sausages and asked if I wanted any, so I said let me have a look at the sausages first and he went in a mood and said I'll make my own food then and it turned into a massive argument about that and then started moaning because I decided to nap instead of spend sometime with him even though he wanted to do his own thing..

He has been calling me a retard, slut, tramp, slag just every name under the sun you can think of and then stormed out of the house. I'm dealing with this so often now I always feel on edge... I don't have any of this recorded though I don't feel safe for me and my son. How would I get a restraining order and full custody?

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Break ups with a baby

I feel absolutely broken writing this, I never planned this for my life. I have the most beautiful 8 month old boy, my whole entire world.

I am an ex drug addict for many years and spent so many years in toxic friendships/relationships surrounded by so much evil, unable to look after myself and wanting to die multiple times. I am now 3 years clean, and have the most perfect blessing to throw every fibre of my being into, and I do and now I’m about to tear his whole world apart.

My partner never ever puts his first, he owns his own business and I work for him - he still gives me full wage to be a stay at home mum to raise our beautiful boy. However, being in his position he gets a lot of free time, and instead of spending it with us which you’d assume most parents would want to if they have the opportunity, he chooses to spend it all at the golf course or pub drinking for hours, and wonders why I’ve pulled away and don’t prioritise him anymore and pick fights all the time? He blames me for us falling apart but I’ve done my best to balance everything and it’s still not good enough.

I work for him and now have to find another place to live in 3 weeks as we were due to move house due to our landlord selling our house, now I’m stuck. No job, no money and no home. I can move to my mums temporarily but what do I do with my baby? I don’t want to put him in nursery yet. I’ve held onto a loveless relationship for soooooo long because I want to be a family and don’t want to have days where he has to go to his dads and I don’t get to see him, I don’t want anyone else looking after him without me including his father, he’s a good dad when he’s actually around but when I’m there I’m just the babysitter. I feel absolutely lost for words, I wanted a family for so many years and never thought I’d come close, and now I do and it’s all fallen apart

18 month old special breakfast!

My 18 month olds special breakfast! We usually stick to healthier options but kiddo had his 18m shots yesterday and is feeling a little under the weather so we figured a special breakfast as a pick me up was in order! So this morning he had waffles and strawberries with Nutella to dip into, and cranberry juice!

I am so sick of the know it all moms on here giving advice to toddler moms when they have an infant.

If you haven't raised a toddler, do not come in all holier than thou giving advice and judgment to toddler moms when you baby is like 5 months old.

Am I overreacting?

My partner and I have just had our baby girl, my 1st his 3rd. I don’t feel like he is very interested in our baby and I often have to ask for him to do things or even pick her up when she cries. He is on his phone a lot and he doesn’t pick up on her cues for being tired. I have mentioned to him already that he needs to be more involved, when I walk in he will start playing with her but I can see from a distance he’s just holding her whilst on his phone. I’m worried if I keep saying stuff he will resent being with baby even more as I have mentioned it a couple of times now. Baby is now 3 months old. I just don’t know if this is a man thing or he’s just not interested. Advice needed please.

Taking food to restaurants for baby

I’m posting as incognito because I feel a bit silly asking about this 😂 my son is nine months old with a suspected nut allergy. Tomorrow we’re going for a meal with family to a Chinese buffet. I for obvious reasons don’t want him eating from this buffet because of salt,msg and most importantly nuts (which are in A LOT of their dishes). At a buffet there is absolutely no guarantee something will be nut free as cross contamination can happen very easily. Would I be wrong to take my own food for him? None messy things like broccoli pancakes or oat muffins which I make at home for him. I also will be cleaning up his mess as I do at every place we eat at. Most of the time I let him have a little of whatever I’m having but as this is a buffet I’m not risking it.

Toddler rejecting dad - upsetting for us

This feels like a recurrent theme in my life but it’s ramped up. Our son is 2 later this month and he is getting soo dismissive of his dad. His dad has pretty delicate mental health so this hits him real hard and he tends to recoil (which we both know doesn’t help)

Last night for example was my partners term to do bedtime, however our son was getting so upset by him being put to bed by dad that I just ended up doing it.

Our son was getting so extreme that he was opening his bedroom door, taking dad by the hand and walking him out saying “bye dada”.

I know it’s hurtful for him. And I know it’ll pass. But our son has always been dismissive of his dad and we/I don’t know how to resolve it. Our son is so affectionate with me and it must be so painful for dad to not have the same love back.

And because of all this rejection, I end up doing most of the care (bed, bath, can’t be out of sight, wake ups etc)

They play well together for the most part, but it’s all on our son’s terms.

Dad has arranged for a son-dad day this weekend where I’m not involved. These days are few and far between but something I want them to have more of. Whenever I’ve been away for a day/overnight, they’re usually besties when I come back and it’s lovely.

It’s so hard and I’m hoping someone has experience and can tell me it gets better 😭