Having your ex there whilst you’re giving birth
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My son’s father and I are not together. We had our son on 2/28/25. Child birth is the most vulnerable a woman will ever be. He is my best friend and for me, I could not imagine anyone but him with me. Most importantly, he wanted to be there. He took care of me, he never left my side, we did it together. My decision was because I felt comfortable with him being there and I wanted him there. At one point he made me laugh so hard I farted, which I don’t do in front of people, we laughed so hard I was crying and peed myself, and then threw up. And somehow it all just made us laugh more. It was a good experience. That’s how you should feel. If you do not feel that way, then you can make the decision to not have him in the room. It does not matter if that upsets him, and it might. But you are going to be on full display, you are going to need comfort, someone to rub your back, hold your hand, push the hair out of your eyes. Someone who doesn’t make it all feel awkward or hard.
I did have him in the room during labour or the birth because he was verbally abusive in the weeks leading up the birth so he came to the hospital when i was close to delivering the baby and let in the room after i was settled and the midwife made sure everything was ok with baby xx
I let him know after the birth I did not want to deal with his drama. Not about to argue right before I push absolutely not
I couldn’t dilate having my ex there bc he stressed me out so much 😅
He stressed me out to the point I went no contact at all , I didn’t want him there creating a stressful environment so I called after baby was already born