Advice on being in an unhappy relationship

I just needed a safe place to post this. I’m in the realisation stage of knowing i probably need to separate from my partner/ babies dad. This was the only way I was able to express and gather my thoughts. Any advice or words of encouragement welcome😢 Sums us up: I forgave you when you cheated You made me feel like I was to blame And to me that pretty much sums us up I let you come back when you walked away during our pregnancy You got the praise for giving it a go And to me that pretty much sums us up I asked for reassurance You offered nothing but doubt And to me that pretty much sums us up I was giving birth to our son, the final push You checked your football bet And to me that pretty much sums us up I used your phone to research teething in babies You accused me of invading your privacy And to me that pretty much sums us up I told you I had never loved like this before You responded with ‘okay, well I love you too’ And to me that pretty much sums us up I told you I didn’t feel pretty enough for you You told me not to worry because you didn’t go for looks And to me that pretty much sums us up I wanted a future with you, a house, marriage, another child You reiterated that you refuse to plan life because tomorrow is never promised And to me that pretty much sums us up You told me our child needed nappies I went and payed for them on my maternity pay And to me that pretty much sums us up You told me the bottles needed cleaning I went and washed and sterilised them And to me that pretty much sums us up You told me you were hungry I went and made you food And to me that pretty much sums us up You made me feel like I wasn’t enough I lost myself trying to morph into the perfect person And to me that pretty much sums us up I was a girl who wanted gentle and patient love You were a man that didn’t know how to show me that I compromised and did everything in my power to help you love me You told me that you weren’t happy and that I wasn’t enough And to me that pretty much sums us up
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Your future husband would never cheat on you, let alone do half those things you’ve mentioned!! Run!

I 100% agree that you deserve so very much more than this man can offer! I have been a single parent and can tell you that you will be fine whatever happens. Us women are strong!

The part where you tried to help him love you. I’ve been there and done it. No one who is and adult, changes their behaviour unless they want to. And we all know it’s hard to change our spots. But he’d do it if he wanted to. It’s no reflection on you. He just maybe isn’t the right person for you. But you trying to help him is a drain on your precious energy. Put that into yourself and your kids and find someone who doesn’t require that effort. They do exist x

Sooo, he doesn’t love you

sounds like its not worth it. Also since u have a child its not worth pushing through and than end up despising each other but than u still gotta communicate and see each other cuz the child. I would just call it quits. Maybe he needs time to fix himself and than you guys can try again if that what u guys want. But I think its best to end the relationship. You deserve to be happy. It will be hard not gonna lie but you'll be alot happier.

He sounds narcissistic and manipulative leave and don’t look back harder said than done xxx

He is the one for me sounds like is not enough for you. He is an unhappy man that doesn’t know what really wants in life affecting you since you are the closest person to him. Use therapy or some trusted person to help before move on.. dm if you want to too!

Listen to your gut girlie, so sorry you’ve been through all this 🥹 You deserve and can have someone who treats you so much better than this!

RUN!! You deserve so much better than this. So sorry you’ve had to deal with all this

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